Some of the many species Jeffrey Combs has evolved into:

  • @TheGrandNagus@lemmy.world
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    559 minutes ago

    My wife took my name, but I would not give the slightest shit if she didn’t, which I made clear to her at the time.

    We briefly discussed having a double-barrel surname, but writing that out would be a mild inconvenience that neither of us want.

  • @S_H_K@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    41 hour ago

    What a narrow view. In other many places things are different and they function you know. In Brazil kids get the mother’s surname.

  • @idiomaddict@lemmy.world
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    84 hours ago

    My maiden name was awful to have. Other people liked it because it looked cool, but it was a hassle for everything even in the US, where at least part of it was well known. I then moved to Germany, where it was just totally foreign.

    My married name is under three syllables (vs more than eight), easy to spell, and sounds as German as possible. My husband would have loved to take my last name, but we couldn’t do it the way we wanted to (German naming laws 🙃). I would really have liked to at least have been able to keep my maiden name as a middle name, but alas.

    I still feel very weird (about a year out) about it, but there are way more good feelings than bad.

    However, it’s really annoying that people now assume I’m German. I put in a shit load of work to learn German well as an adult, and my strongest skill is in pronunciation. That combined with my name means people think I’m just a native German who’s bad at grammar, and they don’t correct me anymore.

    I always wanted to blend in as a native, I just didn’t think about the middle stretch where I just seem a bit dumb to others, both because of the language and cultural things that people now expect me to know (I thought it was called handkäse because you can eat the little rounds straight from the hand, no need for bread, until last year).

    • Flying SquidOPM
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      53 hours ago

      I have a German surname, but my family changed the pronunciation to sound lest German during WWII so now Germans pronounce it “wrong” and no one else can pronounce it at all.

      • @idiomaddict@lemmy.world
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        43 hours ago

        I read most of my news, so it took about a month to realize the VP candidates last name was pronounced “Walls,” so you’re among company.

        I’m from Connecticut, which has a town called Berlin, pronounced BURR-lun (/‘bərlən/). That , like the pronunciation of many German-origin names, was changed during WWII, but it’s basically a shibboleth for locals now, like Houston Street.

        • Flying SquidOPM
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          33 hours ago

          I’m in Indiana and half of our place names are pronounced incorrectly.

          Ver-sayles (Versailles)
          Rooshaville (Russiaville)
          Pee-ru (Peru) Kay-roh (Cairo)

          And, of course, we’re the home of the University of Note’r Daym.

    • @mipadaitu@lemmy.world
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      2113 hours ago

      Hot tip, change HIS last name prior to the wedding and she gets the name change free.

      I know a couple that waited until after the wedding to do that and the husband changed his name, then the wife was given the option of keeping her old name, or switch to his old name.

      She ended up having to go through the entire name change process without the benefit of the auto-name flip from the marriage.

      • Norah - She/They
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        13 hours ago

        This is really interesting, because in my state in Australia, this process isn’t gendered at all. The man can take the woman’s name just as easily, same with same-sex marriages.

      • Warning: Taken from decades-old memories of things that I wasn’t involved in or paying much attention to! Anyway…

        In Virginia a man sued the state like 30 years ago because they wanted to charge him to change his name, when a woman could change her name free when she got married. The state could either have charged women or made it free for all. They chose the later.

      • @bitchkat@lemmy.world
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        210 hours ago

        I’m pretty sure both of us had the option of changing our names when we got married and when we got divorced.

    • Flying SquidOPM
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      814 hours ago

      I’ve known other people who do that.

      I just feel like any name change that you don’t need (i.e. you’re transitioning) is just more bother than it’s worth.

      • @BradleyUffner@lemmy.world
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        1114 hours ago

        Yeah, that’s what we are running into. The marriage forms here in NC make it simple to take the husband’s last name as part of the process, but any other kind of change requires a lot of crazy, expensive, and time consuming steps.

  • @Pickle_Jr@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    1415 hours ago

    There are tons of reasons why one might not want to change their name. At a minimum you have to send a form to the state, update any licenses you have, contact your banks, your insurance, your place of work… Best case scenario it’s an annoying hassle to deal with.

    Was I appreciative when my wife took my name? Sure. But that’s mostly because we also share the same first name so it’s hilarious to share the same last name. But I told her many times before we got married she didn’t need to do it. I never expected that out of her.

    If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

    • @ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works
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      913 hours ago

      If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

      ‘Why should I have to change? He’s the one who sucks!’ -Michael Bolton

    • @Rubanski@lemm.ee
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      414 hours ago

      You both share three same first name as well? That sounds very confusing for your peers

    • @garibaldi_biscuit@lemmy.world
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      113 hours ago

      It seems reasonable for each partner to continue to use their original family name if they want to, even if it’s only the husband’s name on the marriage certificate.

      If you go down the legally hyphenated name path, after a few generations, this could potentially devolve to family names like: Jones-Smith - Smythe-Johns - Longbottom-Allcock - Junior III (etc).

    • @captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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      114 hours ago

      Yeah my wife has agreed that taking my name would be nice, but it’s a pain in the ass. And omg yes I love your attitude. Part of why I wanted to share a last name is so we can be Ms. and Mrs. Lastname.

  • @BenVimes@lemmy.ca
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    7020 hours ago

    There are lots of reasons for women to keep their maiden name. In the case of my wife, she had two good ones:

    1. She didn’t want to become disassociated from her scientific publications.

    2. She didn’t want to complicate or redo any immigration paperwork.

    • @LillyPip@lemmy.ca
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      17 hours ago

      My ex took my last name, because he had siblings with children and my family name would have died with me. It was a gift to my father that his* grandson would carry the family name forwards. And no, that wasn’t a red flag – we were married for 30 years.

    • @Wrench@lemmy.world
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      517 hours ago
      1. Who cares

      I’ll admit when I was in my early 20s, it was a point of contention with one girl I was dating. I was young and stupid, my mom took my dad’s name, etc.

      But by 30, wiser, less prone to drama, I was solidly in the “who cares, do what makes you happy” crowd.

      My wife kept her last name. It’s easier, and less confusing for her clients and networking.

      Grow the fuck up. Stop being so needy and insecure. It’s a bad look.

  • @Underwaterbob@lemm.ee
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    211 hours ago

    I only recently found out he was Brunt as well as Weyoun. And had no idea about the others. (I still haven’t gotten around to Enterprise.) What a talented guy!

  • @ChicoSuave@lemmy.world
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    4022 hours ago

    It’s heart warming to see Jeffrey Combs is an incredible actor with good taste in the company he keeps. It’s exciting seeing him vocally shouting down the fascists.

  • GeminiFrenchFry
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    1118 hours ago

    I almost kept my maiden, but now it’s an additional middle name. I love my maiden name, but I changed my name to my husbo’s because it has a Z in it and I was super stoked to have a Z in my signature. 😂I also like the way it sounds with my first name.

    Sometimes, it’s really that simple. My husband didn’t care either way when we discussed it. It was just a choice I made.

  • @wjrii@lemmy.world
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    17 hours ago

    My wife went double-barreled after I specifically told her I didn’t care if she changed, kept, or anything in between. I didn’t want to change my name, so why should she have to?

    Twenty years next summer.

    Edit: “double-barreled” just means hyphenated.

    • @GoofSchmoofer@lemmy.world
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      616 hours ago

      I have some friends that got married and decided to merge their two last names and create a brand new last name. I thought it was a cool idea

      • @ayyy@sh.itjust.works
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        114 hours ago

        That seems pretty common to me as a Californian. However two couples I know greatly regret this decision because they both had long names to start with and now they can’t fill out any forms successfully.