• @moistclump@lemmy.world
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    1355 months ago

    Reminder that just because you don’t have children, doesn’t mean you have to achieve a certain level of career or academia. You’re still valid. I’m still valid…

      • @doctordevice@lemm.ee
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        95 months ago

        In fact I strive to do as little as possible. I only work to pay the bills. If I could luck upon a comfortable enough nest egg I would quit working immediately and just play games the rest of my life (video & board, solo and with friends/family).

        Hell, I may end up contributing more to society that way since I enjoy dabbling in video game design but don’t have enough time to actually work towards anything I could release. If I had time, maybe I’d actually create something for a wider audience rather than whatever minor contribution I have at work.

      • M137
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        65 months ago

        Well, one thing you should do in life is read the text you’ve written and checking for errors.

    • @Visstix@lemmy.world
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      375 months ago

      I’ve done my part to make the world a better place by not having kids, and I’m just cruising along.

    • @where_am_i@sh.itjust.works
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      -25 months ago

      And if you do want children and are fulfilled living a life dedicated to making and raising them, you’re also still valid.

      In fact, that would be an accomplishment, while simply existing isn’t. But this planet got an overpopulation problem, so if all you wanna do is continue simply and unimportantly existing while also not procreating, I’d say, go ahead.

    • JokeDeity
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      65 months ago

      I always like to remind people that their ancestors survived as fishermen and farmers and peasants, you aren’t a failure if you don’t become the president or the greatest person in your field or whatever.

    • @pressanykeynow@lemmy.world
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      45 months ago

      I don’t think “valid” is a proper word for someone’s life. You don’t have to be validated by anyone, you don’t own anyone anything. Do what you yourself see fit for this one-time adventure.

  • @peanutyam@lemmy.world
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    185 months ago

    “The Transformed Wife” is the worst of all the Transformers - must be a Decipticon hell bent on hating all women with brains….

    • @thefartographer@lemm.ee
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      675 months ago

      A. Username checks out
      B. I can help you figure out your purpose serving men! But before you can walk, you must crawl. First, you’re going to learn how to hunt men. Then how to cook men. Once you’ve mastered these two, you will spend months or years learning how to plate men. Finally, serving men. Then you’ll be ready to start your own menstaurant.

  • Flying Squid
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    295 months ago

    Another possible housewife and incubator ruined by BIG ACADEMIA.

    • humble peat digger
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      -215 months ago

      Serious question.

      Are u people advocating for humanity just dying off? Why not have kids? That’s normal::: spoiler spoiler

      • AbsentBird
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        I think they’re advocating that women can choose for themselves what kind of person to be, and the fact their bodies are capable of gestating new humans doesn’t obligate them to do so.

        It’s sort of like how the fact a man’s body may be capable of entertaining others by dressing their penis up in a tiny coat and hat doesn’t mean we should bully an entire gender into making that the purpose of their existence, nor does it mean we’re advocating for a world without sharp dressed dicks.

        Let people live their lives based on who they are, not the abilities of their genitals.

        • humble peat digger
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          Noone has to do anything.
          But there seems to be a sustained campaign against having kids.
          Imo This is just fighting against the natural way of life.

          • AbsentBird
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            25 months ago

            Noone has to do anything.

            The original tweet essentially said that all women have a mission from God to use their bodies to make babies. At the very least it’s a value judgment on how women live their lives.

            There seems to be a sustained campaign against having kids.

            I have never encountered this. There is absolutely a sustained campaign for bodily autonomy, and for the acceptance of people who choose not to reproduce; but I haven’t encountered anyone talking like the original tweet, saying women have a mission from God to not have kids or something.

            This is just fighting against the natural way of life.

            Here we go again with imposing judgements on people who don’t reproduce. I feel like that’s the bigger ‘sustained campaign’ in this conversation. The natural way of life changes over time, it used to be natural to die young from a bacterial infection, or to have your village sacked by marauders. We don’t need to have the same pressures to keep reproduction high as in the past. Populations are still increasing, but people are out here blaming women for not doing it faster? Just take a breath, it’s going to be okay.

      • sweetpotato
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        85 months ago

        What exactly did they say that made you draw this conclusion? I’m so curious

      • Flying Squid
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        65 months ago

        Just FYI, my wife has two masters degrees and still was able to get pregnant, give birth and help raise a child with me afterward. So apparently it is possible for women to have advanced university degrees and have kids.

        Incidentally, my mother also has two masters degrees, so apparently that was also possible in the 1970s without the population crashing.

        • humble peat digger
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          Nobody says it’s impossible.
          And my wife has a college degree and has no impetus to work at all.

          Her sister has masters and doesn’t want to work either .
          Riddle me that

          • Flying Squid
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            35 months ago

            You seem to think suggesting women get advanced degrees means we also think people shouldn’t have babies.

            Also, you seem to be making some stupid “women don’t want to work” claim which is just nonsense.

            • humble peat digger
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              -25 months ago

              The only question I have - why advocate childlessness? U people seem to be making claims that if woman has kids - she’s automatically a baby factory and a servant.
              This is mindbiggling

              • Flying Squid
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                25 months ago

                Nope. The claim is that the tradwife is the one who thinks that.

                Everyone else is saying she’s wrong.

                And your stupid “women don’t want to work” implication is still stupid.

                • humble peat digger
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                  -15 months ago

                  Are u denying that not all women at all want to do the day job and then take care of the kids? I’m telling u not every one at all want to do that

  • @Hellsfire29@lemmy.world
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    225 months ago

    Nothing wrong with being proud of giving birth to a new life. Also nothing wrong with believing that you’re more than that. It becomes a problem when people start forcing their beliefs on others.

  • MrsDoyle
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    245 months ago

    According to Wikipedia, “the world population … was estimated by the United Nations to have exceeded eight billion in mid-November 2022. It took around 300,000 years of human prehistory and history for the human population to reach a billion and only 218 years more to reach 8 billion.”

    There are PLENTY of people in the world. Some of them need to get off my lawn. Grrr.

      • @Underwaterbob@lemm.ee
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        35 months ago

        I think you’ll notice both of those places have very low birth rates these days. Almost like people don’t enjoy being crammed in like sardines and having to compete in the workplace like rats fighting over the last rotting morsels.

      • @Vilian@lemmy.ca
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        35 months ago

        They need to learn to convive with others to increase immigration, or fix their system but that’s harder tho

        • @jaschen@lemm.ee
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          15 months ago

          Korea isn’t as bad as Japan when it comes to their immigration. But somehow Korea is even worse birth rate than Japan.

      • @GojuRyu@lemmy.world
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        155 months ago

        If you look her up you will see that this is one of her more tame takes unfortunately. At least this is not about her views on women’s place in marriage or the rights a husband supposedly has to their wives body, regardless of consent. I can’t help but feel a little sad for her though. From her recounting of her life it sounds like she married a man she didn’t love because that’s what she was supposed to do. After over a decade of miserable marriage she broke and saw it as her duty to be servile in all things to a man she was never really attracted to and convinced herself that happiness is to live that submissive life in deference to a man in all things. If it was the story of someone who got out and found a life outside those oppressive beliefs it would be a cautionary tale, but she sees it as the recipe for a good biblical life.

        • @half_fiction@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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          She’s made videos and written books full of this vile bullshit. So we know she’s all too real, unfortunately. She exists in the Christian Fundamentalist influencer corner of the internet, which is about as fun as it sounds. Google “Transformed Wife.”

        • @odium@programming.dev
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          395 months ago

          They call themselves a “transformed wife” and, living in Texas, I’ve met enough of the self proclaimed evangelical trad wife types to know that there are plenty of deeply brainwashed women who hold these beliefs and would agree with this post.

        • @cheers_queers@lemm.ee
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          25 months ago

          we do though. she has a YouTube channel. she’s a disgusting vile piece of shit who beat her kids from the time they were babies and tells other parents to do the same. as well as promoting rape culture, rigid gender roles, etc.

      • @where_am_i@sh.itjust.works
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        -85 months ago

        No, it makes it zero disgusting. It’s a person making a passionate calling. She simply calls for others to follow their steps, she’s a woman and a mother, and believes everything she says, and is probably happy and fulfilled and is wishing that to others.

        You seem to be triggered af by literally everything and can’t see when someone’s heart is in the right place regardless of whether you agree with them or not.

        Maybe that snowflake term your older generation used was correct. Cuz, frankly, you guys act like a bunch of rebellious teenagers. Kinda cringe.

        Oh, I’m an atheist, feminist, child-free, I don’t have a tweeter, and where I live abortions are legal. And you’re cringe even to me.

  • @Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works
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    125 months ago

    By this logic you really can’t expect me to pee in the toilet. I can’t have a fire hose adapter hanging off of me just to pee straight down all the time. I was born for snow writing, and I’m coming to a yard near you!

  • @_bcron@midwest.social
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    835 months ago

    Look at your bodies, women! An internal inguinal canal less likely to cause a hernia, lower center of gravity, higher body fat, and less body hair for easier cleanup. God created you for spending long hours in the coal mines!

    • @Shou@lemmy.world
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      335 months ago

      But men’s long ass nosehair makes for natural filters against the dust in the mines! Clearly men are better suited for the mines!

      • @Narauko@lemmy.world
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        485 months ago

        But look at how small and dexterous the children are, able to squeeze and clamber through the tunnels. And look at what they play all day: Minecraft. Clearly the children are best suited, as they yearn for the mines.

      • JokeDeity
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        205 months ago

        And yet it’s the children who yearn for the mines.

  • @style99@lemm.ee
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    545 months ago

    It’s always the Devil who tries to convince everyone that he speaks for God.

    • NielsBohron
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      95 months ago

      I’d remove the religious implications and say “it’s always those who are most convinced they have a monopoly on Truth who are most dehumanizing to the out-group”

        • NielsBohron
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          25 months ago

          Fair point, but using ambiguous religious language to convey the dangers of religion seems a bit open to misinterpretation, imo.

    • JokeDeity
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      55 months ago

      It’s always the religious who ruin everything ever.