I’m not really sure if I have adhd or not at the moment and I just realised this. I’m not sure if this is related to adhd at all but I just find it weird looking into peoples eyes, when I listen to people I usually look out a window or something and sometimes people ask me weather I am listening and I didn’t even realise I was looking out a window I kind of just assumed they knew I was listening.
Also as a side note, I have a lot of symptoms of adhd but I’m not sure if to enough of an extent, since I see a lot that everyone has the symptoms of adhd just not to the extent of someone that actually has adhd has.
Do you also have that one comment in the bottom of your lemmy inbox that you’ve been meaning to respond to for the last several weeks or months but you keep putting it off?
Do you also sit on your couch or bed and just stair out the window for like 30 minutes or longer at a time?
I also have struggle focusing on school work, this hasn’t always been the case but it’s a lot more now. Once the coffee from the morning wears off I can’t focus for long enough to finish a small portion of a single Maths question before I’m staring out the window thinking about something completely unrelated, then about 5-10 minutes later I realised I’m distracted.
You’ve probably also noticed a pattern at this point, I love staring out windows!
*AUDHD
I am right there with you. Eye contact makes me so uncomfortable, and I listen so much better when I’m looking at nothing.
Look at the ground and orient my ear towards them or I’m not hearing anything they say
This sounds pretty similar to my experience. I have a hard time looking at just one thing for any stretch of time, and eye contact is especially difficult, because it makes me think about what I look like, which is another distraction from the conversation that I’m probably already missing
When I was a kid yes but my dad took it as disrespect so i traded it for masking and general anxiety
Yeah I also tend to face away (like sideways) from people when talking to them. I just dont like looking at people’s eyes when talking. I dont mind shaking their hand or looking at their eyes when they talk though
I don’t do it intentionally, but my wife often tells me to look at her when she’s talking so she knows I’m listening.
The rest you wrote sounds a lot like ADHD inattentive type, especially executive distinction. And caffeine is a stimulant which can have similar effects as meds. If you can still sleep without problems or even better after drinking coffee, that’s an additional indication.
The problem with ADHD is that most of our struggles are things “everybody has once in a while” but it’s so much more often and extreme that it makes our lives harder.
Get checked if you have the possibility.
Coffee does help but I dont notice it a ton, and it only lasts for like 2 hours.
I always thought caffiene was overhyped because it had like no effect on me. But now i have noticed it helps me focus.
Yeah, that’s why I drank about 8 coffees a day before I even suspected having ADHD. I just knew I can work better with it and thought that this is the effect others experience too when they say that they need one.
If you can still sleep without problems or even better after drinking coffee, that’s an additional indication.
I wish I had known this was a symptom decades ago. Ever since I started drinking coffee, I knew it didn’t keep me up, but I only found out I was ADHD a few years ago.
Same here. Never understood when people didn’t drink coffee after dinner, saying that they wouldn’t be able to sleep all night.
I don’t struggle with eye contact because I purposefully avoid it.
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I start to think about which eye to look at and that distracts me, so for close friends I do much less eye contact than with people I’m meeting or working with
I used to look down but then I got para that the person would think I was staring at their chebs so now I just look at the eyebrows.
Not that it matters because I usually forget what was said within seconds anyway.
I grew up in a rural area during the 80/90’s so any diagnosis would just be ‘shy or awkward kid’
Looking at someone’s chebs is natural. It’s right there, and it just sticks out. Sometimes people show a bit too much chebs though, and you can kinda see the knee weenus.
I do but I also have autism. For me it’s definitely more of an autism thing. I’m curious what it is for ADHD folks in here.
Tip for eye contact: look at their nose instead. Apparently it looks like you’re making eye contact but it’s much less weird to do. Thank you the my college teacher for that tip, it’s served me well over the years
I can’t think when I’m focusing on making eye contact with someone.
Like. I’m looking at you in the eyes or I’m paying attention to what you’re saying but I can’t do both.
