I want to selfhost a messaging service for my family. It should be secure and have voice calling option, ideally. Thank you.
I’m on Signal (obviously not self hosted) and even if I really wanted to move to another platform be it self hosted or yet another privacy focussed one, I can’t ask my friends and family to move to another platform again. I already asked them to move away from WhatsApp, can’t do it again…
💯 this. It took me several years to get most of my friends, co-workers and family to Signal…
Just for a family and friends I’d go for xmpp. Matrix is still an enormous greavy piece of software, hard to self host if you don’t want to pay for a gigantic server just for it. Also the UI is more like gamer/company chat (discord, slack…), what may not be what your family expect, coming from whatsapp, telegram, or plain sms. In the contrary xmpp is very light and nowadays a lot of tutorial exists on how to configure it, even with voice/video. Plus mobile apps like conversation match the habbits of other messengers.
Another Nextcloud user here. If you setup a Nextcloud server you will see many benefits, with the Talk app being just one of them. Install OnlyOffice and you can even collaboratively edit documents in the web browser similar to Google Docs or o365. I really can’t recommend Nextcloud enough. Anyone who is into self hosting should at least give it a try.
I’ve tried setting it up three times now but I keep getting permission errors before I can even get into it. Is there a good guide to it somewhere?
Try this tutorial if you are on x86 architecture:
https://www.howtoforge.com/how-to-install-nextcloud-on-debian-11/
Are you comfortable installing Linux and using the terminal?
Edit: nvm this somehow responded to the wrong post.
Why? Existing platforms, especially the plain cell network, are going to be far more compatible and reliable.
Because this is SelfHosted and hosting services yourself is cool?
Some people have very legitimate reasons to want a secure private communication platform, and others are just enthusiastic nerds who do it for fun.



