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Plant growing is gendered now?
All the cishet men I’ve known who have had gardens grew all kinds of stuff, from fruits and vegetables to culinary herbs and flowers.
Maybe I’m in a bubble but damn I feel sorry for the dudes in the OP.
Yeah this is weirdly sexist. I only know one person this describes because he’s growing weed (legally) in an apartment so he can’t have a outdoor garden
Hell, I know over a dozen men with gardens and only two even grow peppers. Everyone grows tomatoes, though…
Hornworms and squirrells always wreck my tomatoes:(
I have a raised bed and just hang a loose net around the whole thing so the squirrels can’t get in. Otherwise those little buggers will take one bite out of each tomato and leave the rest for me to clean up.
It’s not immediately clear to me how this deters such pests.
The netting isn’t big enough for squirrels to get through. It’s draped down from the trellising, and pinned down to the ground. There’s no way for the squirrels to get in unless they climb up and over, and they don’t seem to be able to figure that out.
Not sure what to do about the horn worms though.
Oh, so there are also trellises of some sort. What else is there? It’s also still it quite clear how this is configured - are these frustra surrounding each plant? Because that sounds like a lot of work for each tomato.
As for hornworms, best we’ve found is a daily sweep with a jar of soapy water for ritual executions.
I’ll just send a picture:
This was before I added the netting. I use tomato clips to hold up the plants:
Then the netting just goes all the way around the outside hanging down from the top, and secured at the bottom with ground clips.
Fucking stink bugs! My plants got a little out of hand this year and I had to pluck stink bugs off them every day. Still 60+ lbs of tomatoes tho
Bro how big is your fuckin’ garden
Also may I have some tomat plz
Too big lol, the rest of my crop is frozen waiting to turn into sauce which is good because we’re out of last years sauce
I get it. I’ll help use up those extra tomatoes for you
Do what my dad does and plant like 40 of em, they can’t eat them all!
Yes, they can.
Well, shit. Greenhouse it is?
I’m debating replacing my ugly old shed with one
Sounds like a plan. Until those fuckers learn how to open doors, I guess.
yes. everything is gendered for gender warriors.
i’m cishet and i have a garden and most women i date think it means I’m secretly gay. the cat doesn’t help.
gardening is considered feminine, or for old people. not for younger men who are supposed to be virile and dominant. they should be hunting.
That’s wild, I’m sorry you gotta deal with that.
Survival skills + demonstrated empathy/care with other living beings are positives for any person. Hopefully you find someone who appreciates that. /gen
Weird. Have they seen how much you can provide from a garden?
Also, having a garden doesn’t preclude one from hunting… whatever that means in the modern era. You can only eat so much meat.
Just grow an unkempt beard and wear overalls.
Well it looks like your garden has at least a double function - it filters out women with weird ideas about gender and sexuality 😁
I grow several varieties of peppers from sweet bells to habaneros, tomatoes, okra, cucumbers, and mint, plus a few odds and ends that look cool at the garden center. I tend to grow plants that either produce more per dollar to grow than I can get at the store, or in the case of tomatoes, of better quality. And mint is eternal.
I also harvest beautyberries that have sprung up wild on my property, and have recently learned that the big weird thing looming over my wood shop is a black walnut tree, so I think I’m gonna go nuts next summer.
Cacti and carnivorous plants are super cool tho??? Especially that you get cacti cuz of how resilient they are, a great first plant, can recommend. And growing your own food/spices as well? Also Ive never seen that stereotype lmao
Wtf lol? This is completely made up
This is some poor bull shit… when did growing anything make anyone fragile?.. get outta here with your bs. Do you just go around trying to start shit?
Why would you make up something like that? Maybe its your own masculinity that is fragile?
When I was young, I got made fun of for wanting to help my mom plant and tend to a garden with basil and tomatoes. It didn’t kill my love for plants but childhood cruelty sticks with you.
I had 2 older brothers and 1 younger while growing up, we lived rurally and we would have a huge garden and we were all expected to work in it. Personally, i liked it, but I didn’t always like it cuz I was a kid I guess, but I liked it enough I have my own garden now and nobody forced me.
I was also homeschooled, so I didn’t know a lot people, but I never got made fun of for gardener.
Eh funny but untrue. The dudes I know who are plant people grow anything cool. Ive got a lot of weird and cool plants.
I do grow the super hot peppers, and i like feeding ticks to my carnivorous plants tho. So its not far off.
I also grow tomatoes, eggplants, garlic, cuces, squash, etc.
it’s true in experience. I’m a single guy. I date around. Most women I meet think gardening makes me queer. It is not considered a desirable hobby for a man. And many men who don’t garden, also think it’s queer/feminine.
People who do garden, don’t see it that way, of course. But every garden group I’ve ever met up with was 70% women, and most of the men were not ‘manly’. I myself am not a manly guy.
I grew up assuming every adult should be self-sufficient, so I learnt all of cooking, cleaning, gardening, basic repairs, home maintenance, sewing, etc. I think the most likely people to have a problem with that never learnt it themselves, so they feel inadequate.
It became an issue in my first serious relationship because she didn’t cook or clean much. She definitely never tried to nurture so much as a plant. I had no problem with that because I could, but she started to feel less feminine, and eventually turned it around on me. The guys she left me for were completely useless, but they didn’t highlight her insecurities so she was happy. At least for a short while.
People who are confident in their identity and abilities don’t do this, and that’s who you want to find anyway, regardless of gender.
Traditionally it’s been similar to cooking:
Farmer/chef? That’s a man’s work.
Gardener/home cook? That’s a woman’s work.
Fortunately we’ve got shows like the Great British Bake Off and a myriad of popular YouTube gardening and home cooking channels featuring men to help shake this up, but sadly it’s still something that’s seen as gendered by way too many folks. Still, if spicy peppers and cacti (and on the cooking side dishes like pizza) help get insecure men in the door, that’s great. But I’m with TTF: it may not be a strong stereotype, but I’ve also observed it.
What is farming if not gardening at scale?
Like most unnecessarily-gendered things, this thinking falls apart under the slightest hint of logical scrutiny…
I like flowers and tomatoes 😎
E: and pumpkins. Frankly this comic is just to generate anger, all the men I know with green thumbs grew all kinds of healthy and fun plants that everyone enjoyed.
I love hot peppers :3
…fuckin’ pussy?
Sorry, I don’t understand the rules, do we hate peppers now?
Not sure don’t care, I dont consume spicy food because I think it makes me strong I eat spicy food because it makes me feel and id rather not develop a drug addiction :3
peppies 😍
I’ve gardened all my life and my favorite flowers are morning glories, please shove a cactus up your ass. Thank you.
I genuinely regret all my cacti. I have like 8 Peruvian torches about a decade old from seed, and I like to put them outside in spring, so they don’t get all spindly and pathetic, and dear god are they heavy and dangerous to move now. They are like 4 foot (1.2m) tall or so, but can get up to 16 foot (5m)… whoops.
But I don’t want to kill them because, like… I’m proud of them for thriving with me.
I’ve been resisting buying a cactus for awhile now and I think you just gave me the courage to put the idea out of my head forever lol
For anyone feeling the same, maybe check out caudiciforms as a substitute! They grow slow, don’t need much water, and come in a bunch of cool varieties. It’s like bonsai without all the pretentiousness
Would that not be the plants they like? Everyone’s all for gender affirmation until it’s straight men seeking affirmation for theirs
Humans are strange in even assigning plants for specific genders. Just grow whatever the hell they want.
Exactly right. Gender is performance. We commonly enhance this performance through clothing, the way we speak and how we refer to ourselves; this is not the only ways with which it’s done though. I think it would be rude to criticise a trans man for affirming their gender by growing a beard for example. However when it comes to cis men in particular, the way they reinforce their gender is often mocked. So what if the plants some grows makes them feel more comfortable in their gender.
Thinking growing plants is gender affirmation is precisely the problem this image is pointing out.
What someone sees as affirming their gender is entirely up to them. Plenty of men do feel more masculine doing things like not using a straw, eating certain meals, listening to certain music, ect. Women might wear clothing that emphasises their figure. Some trans men feel affirmed in their gender by growing a beard, trans women might train their voice to feel more feminine. Gender is a performance and we all constantly make decisions to reinforce it. Thinking growing plants is gender affirmation isn’t a problem, it’s just a reality you’re not living. If someone grows those kinds of plants and it reinforces their gender identity, that’s valid and more power to them.
My plants are tomatoes, bell peppers, basil, oregano, garlic and coffee (no serious hopes for a good harvest in my climate).
Am I still allowed to call myself a man?
That privilege is heavily dependent on your maintaining a strong garlic harvest. The first year that slips (or your basil/oregano perform too well) you’re getting downgraded to nonbinary. Then there’s a three year grace period before you’re sent straight to full-blown woman. So make sure to fertilize your alliums well!
You avoid growing plants because it’s emasculating.
I avoid growing plants because I’m awful at it and it’s cruel.
We are not the same
I wanted a house so I could grow the first three.
Am currently stuck in in law’s house, with collapsing job market after being denied a mortgage for being too fat 3 months before the job market collapsed.
Denied a mortgage for being too fat…?
Yep. Based on age and mortgage length, and beurocracy they said I had to take out a life insurance policy which got denied due to health factors.
CICO score was too low
I grow whichever plants I want, which includes hot peppers, yes.
But also zucchini and rhubarb and strawberries and cherry tomatoes and…
tell me about rhubarb. I don’t have any experience with it, eating or growing.
It has a large inedible leaf. The stalk is what you are after. The stalks can get sizable, and grow in a patch. I transplanted a root ball in smaller clumps and got more rhubarb. Easy to grow in good soil and not to much shade. Doesn’t need a huge amount of water, but dry growing conditions will create smaller more bitter stalks.
Most times I see rhubarb in food it has been cooked to a mash consistency and sweetened. For things like pies, jams, sweet sauces for Ice cream and the like in my experience. I’m sure there are other uses. It’s pretty sour raw IME.
Easy to store long term in the freezer as well. Cut and remove leaf, wash, either dice or leave whole, package then freeze.
so…dessert celery?
Kinda…
What’s the flavor like? I’ve seen recipes that pair it with strawberry?
I’m generally terrible at describing how things taste. But it pairs well with strawberry. It is generally tart but not overpowering if prepared well, sorta sitting between sweet and sour with more fruity leaning.
Doesn’t work well with savoury IMO.
If you have weed, hot peppers, and carnivorous plants, can I come over?
Normal plants are great too, but clearly you are a person of taste.
