If stage fright is the fear that one has, when performing

Then inbox fright is the fear/dread I have, when it comes to getting replies or reactions, after I post…

Especially if its related to political content

You never know if you’re going to pulled into a struggle session over something and sent nasty messages, overall

  • The Picard Maneuver@lemmy.world
    31·
    3 years ago

    It’s important to remember that you don’t owe it to anyone to engage in a comment fight. If someone decides to be grouchy and try to pull you into an argument, you can just ignore it and move on with your day.

    I post a lot of memes across Lemmy, and you’d be surprised (or maybe not) how often someone goes out of their way to be upset and attempt to bait me or others into arguing with them. I think some people just enjoy being mad, but I’m not one of them, so I’ve decided that it’s not worth the mental energy to engage with that.

    • Exocrinous@lemm.eeEnglish
      2·
      3 years ago

      I don’t think it’s that people like being mad. I think it’s that they just care about things and think they’re important. It’s very nice to be able to be carefree, but a lot of people place things like honour or duty or morality above their own happiness at times.

  • xkforce@lemmy.world
    9·
    3 years ago

    Learning to walk away and not waste your time engaging with people that fundamentally make your life worse is a valuable skill.

    You are not obligated to engage with everyone that tries to goad you into a pointless argument.

  • Transporter Room 3@startrek.websiteBanned
    8·
    3 years ago

    sees 1 new notification oh cool someone responded to something let’s see what it is

    5 notifications hmm. Well something I commented on must have hit the front page / trending

    22 notifications oh god what community decided to take issue with me now… (after blocking a few instances, the amount of gif and emoji spam on my inbox has drastically reduced)

    • june@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      3 years ago

      Exactly the same lmao. If I have more than 10 notifications I’m asking myself what I did

  • Postreader2814@lemm.ee
    8·
    3 years ago

    Used to. I realized that the worst that happens is that you pissed off some dickhead who writes bad words to you. You don’t get hurt or die or anything. It’s just some words.

  • DeaLikesTrains@lemmy.world
    7·
    3 years ago

    I had this when I was younger, too. Today, I don’t mind if someone posts or messages me nasty stuff, I either ignore it completely or just block this person and move on. There is no use getting frightened because of some internet stranger who decided that today is the day to type random bullshit to someone he doesn’t even know.

  • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
    7·
    3 years ago

    What’s in your anonymous inbox can’t hurt you irl. If they’re right, or make an argument that convinces you, you can always say so. If they’re personally hurtful you can block them. Meanwhile reflect that their nasty comments say more to the rest of us about them than you.

    Imagine being able to walk into a bar and block anyone obnoxious from interacting with you, wouldn’t that be peaceful…

    Edit to add: you’re probably going to get more posted comments from people who don’t experience inbox fright than from those who do. So keep in mind there’s a circle of silent friends supporting you!

    • LinkOpensChest.wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      2·
      3 years ago

      In my experience, I’m far less likely to encounter aggressive and unpleasant people in a club or a bar than I am online. I don’t fear social situations, and I even speak and perform regularly in front of large groups, but I get the feeling OP has. When I find an online community where I don’t get the really rabid comments in my inbox, I tend to fixate on it and post only there.

  • Resol van Lemmy@lemmy.worldEnglish
    7·
    3 years ago

    At first I didn’t like the fact that my Lemmy client didn’t support notifications, but it turned out to be the greatest thing about it. It basically helped me cut down on social media time.

  • LinkOpensChest.wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    6·
    3 years ago

    I get this exact feeling, sometimes to the point where I’ll block an entire community. I work a lot with people, and I speak regularly in front of large groups, but I’ve never experienced the kind of aggressive comments in real life that I do online. It gets exhausting. And I know that I can block people, but it’s also hard to distinguish between people who are just having a bad day vs. someone who’s an exhausting troll or debatebro. I usually can’t tell the difference until after the struggle session, when I’m exhausted from arguing against … usually against points I didn’t even make lol

    Edit: Just saw someone on a .world community who is repeatedly misgendering a trans person. I totally think “inbox fright” is valid, and the people who think it can just be ignored are not the ones who are in marginalized groups who are frequently targeted by hate. Even a good ally will get inbox fright, because these users will turn on you too, if you call them out for their bigotry.

  • sbv@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    6·
    3 years ago

    Yes. When I’ve just been shitposting, I look forward to responses. If I’ve made a few serious comments, I dread that I’ve angered the hivemind.

    I know that it makes no sense. But I’ve been honest, and there’s some part of me that’s afraid of negative feedback.

  • jerebear205@lemmy.world
    5·
    3 years ago

    I belive in standing on your square. I post something because I belive in it, and at the end of the day it’s just text on a screen. Like other ppl posted you aren’t obligated to response.

  • rawrthundercats@lemmy.ml
    5·
    3 years ago

    I have this with checking emails at work. I hate when I have a new email and don’t know what it’s about to say.