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  • Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoADHD@lemmy.worldAdhd+IBS+loneliness
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    1 month ago

    Pretty similar.

    Loneliness is one of the worst pains a human being can feel. It’s often been ranked even worse than physical pain. I don’t envy you, I know what it’s like.

    Unfortunately, the only way to get out of it is through even more pain (probably). You have to force yourself to talk with new people and create deep relationships.

    Even more pain, because you’re very likely to be rejected. First of all, deep relationships, in contrast to superficial relationships, have much higher compatibility requirements, idk, you’re probably only compatible with maybe 5% of people to form a deep relationship with. But then you probably also have bad social skills right now, so a part goes away through that. And then there’s just situationally no path towards a deep relationship with a person, maybe they have too many already, or whatever, so another part of that 5% goes away. So the actual chance to start a deep relationship is very low, which will mean lots of rejection and failure.

    This will be incredibly painful, because you’re likely already introverted for reasons that involve negative interactions with people. And you’ll likely add more of them to the list unfortunately. But I’m almost sure you’ll add many more positive ones to the list as well.

    You can do it like me and get rejected over and over until you feel so worthless and desperate that you rewrite your whole being to please another person, then latch to anyone that gets fooled by you pretending to be what they want, then breaking down because you’re living a completely fake life.

    Wait, maybe that’s bad advice? Naaah worked for me so must be good right?

    But seriously. I’m mainly saying this because I went through all kinds of mistakes, but doing them was better than not doing anything. And I know for a fact it can be done. I was incredibly lonely, having no friends, in so much emotional pain all the time, but now I feel like the happiest person on Earth, with so many good friends and loving relationships abundant.

    All of this shit you’re facing right now can be conquered and overcome. Keep searching for advice like you’re doing right now. Humans are not meant to face the world alone, and there are always people willing to help you, you already see it in this thread, and add me to the list. Talking with many other distinct humans about our problems is almost the best thing you can do. We learn through other’s experiences almost as much as through our own experiences.

    If you want to know more, I’m here, talk with me. You can do this :)





  • I don’t understand how silence “hard-counters”… I mean it blocks most casting for a round but it’s only a 20 foot sphere, that can easily be moved out of. Yes it gives like one turn of disabling a caster, but honestly, lots of spells give that already.

    Dilligent casters in a magic heavy setting probably know the dangers of silence and have prepared ways to work around it.

    I just don’t understand how it’s possible, like you say, “hard-counter every boss”. In specific situations, sure. But “every”? That would seem to me like just not a very smart/tactical DM you play with.





  • I think the best way to get better at programming is to

    1. Write programs that you actually want to make
    2. Whenever you run into a hard part, first try to do it yourself
      1. Once you succeed or fail, research the problem and see how others solved it
      2. Always look up words/concepts you don’t understand while researching and don’t stop until you understand
    3. Repeat

    If you like, you can also just read some books or scour some programming related communities for general info, without some specific goal. However, most people don’t have the motivation to do that, because they don’t know what that information is good for yet. That’s why, for most people in my opinion, it’s better to just try to do something and then learn (better) ways of doing what you want, because then you actually immediately get what it’s good for and why you’d need it.




  • With the difference that code actually is easily changeable, if you need to change a wall you actually need to tear it down, get rid of the waste, likely tear everything down that was supported by it, and completely rebuild it with new materials.

    If you need to change the foundations of your code, yes, it’s not always super easy, but it is actually possible and I’ve done it before without super big headaches.

    It’s just not comparable.


  • It’s easier and nicer. But it’s also shitty because of what you mentioned.

    The thing is, that’s how it’s going to stay unless people stop using it. You can get this info you mentioned somewhere else, or simply don’t need it, as I said, yes it’s harder and less nice to live without it, but it’s not like you can’t live without live traffic data or whatever. Start using CoMaps, contribute to open street map, leave reviews on other review aggregators, etc etc