People in Beehaw are nice (thank you all for that), but I am put off of the idea of reddit-like sites because of how toxic Reddit became (and also because of it lumping all USians as you-know-what), and when I select “All” for all lemmy instances in post view, it brings back bad memories of reddit.
I am very sorry if i anger anybody in Beehaw. this is also the reason why I am not active in beehaw.
Take care of yourself, do what you need to do and don’t feel bad about leaving or taking a break.
If you want to try something different, subscribe to communities that aren’t politics focused. Block users like me, if I come into a non-political thread and make it about politics.
It sounds like you care about other people which is great trait, but don’t let it overwhelm you. Engage with social media at your own pace.
I’m kinda agreeing with this, but not as much for the reasons others are stating here.
Lemmy reminds me of reddit moreso in the fact that there is a lot of conversation here that just… isn’t really conversation. People read a headline, immediately form conclusions, and slam one-line comments down that state the bare-bones of that without any thought, without even checking if someone else has said the exact same thing.
And I don’t think most of that’s bots, either. I think it’s the structure of the software. Lemmy seems to be trying to be “reddit, but federated” with absolutely nothing more changed, and I think that’s a massive mistake. I’ve seen what thread-based social media can be like if an attempt is made to actually improve on reddit, and there’s several methods of doing so that work. Methods that encourage healthy interaction and behavior instead of whatever drives numbers the most. Beehaw even already implements many of them in the form of its core principles and moderation strategy!
But that still leaves the software. And the software doesn’t seem to give a damn about the problems inherent to downvoting, upvoting, having visible votes on posts at all, having the easiest thing to interact with be the comment box, etc. Lemmy copies an engagement-oriented site without stripping the toxicity of that. And it shows.
I’m not planning to leave or anything right now – I came here for Beehaw and I still like Beehaw, and I don’t browse outside of it – but man if I don’t have my frustrations.
I feel ya. The anti-US xenophobia has really been rising here lately and I’ve just been blocking and blocking and blocking. I’m fine and on board with criticizing what the current regime is doing, but the way they lump you (presumably?), me, and everyone together as if we all have cabinet level positions and personally signed off on each and every thing in the news is just straight-up ignorant xenophobia.
Why that gets a pass is beyond me. Moderation failures all around, IMO.
Its worse in Reddit imo
I’m not much on Lemmy myself, and I got similar flashbacks when hitting the “All” button. So I tweaked the communities I follow and tend to stick with Beehaw.
I still don’t post much. I’m prone to a quip here or there, or even a terse comment. But I lurk mostly, more mindful of not adding toxicity.
Pls note this is mostly about why I left reddit and when clicking “ALL” brings bad memories back and has me fear people on lemmy will do the same things
