When you’re at work, do you ever find yourself fantasizing and being hyper motivated about being home to continue THAT thing you’re really excited about or should be doing. But then once you get home all motivation evaporates and you end up doing nothing and feeling guilty about it?
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Speaking of work, do you guys ever start a new work project with full focus, then if for some reason you’re ahead of schedule, you lose it all, until you’re late and sometimes too late ?
It happens often and makes me feel incompetent in a position I know I’m capable.
Every single day. “Oh I should work on a side project and get independent income so I don’t have to do this tedious shit.” Nope. “Ok then I should do one of the several hobbies I already spent money on.” Nope. “Video games?” Nope. So tired of my own behavior.
Every single time
Same, and I’m trying to fight against it. I’ve noticed that when coming home I am not just procrastinating, but actually exhausted. Idk if it’s due to concentrating all day, or something with me, but I do know that I am tired.
I’ve started to actually embrace it, and for the time until I get dinner, I just rest. Might sleep even. There’s no point in fighting, as I aren’t in the mental space to do things. Then after dinner I’m back to do stuff, maybe even later in the night as I am more rested from my nap.
Although another take on it is that things are lot more enticed to do things when you can’t/don’t have them.
I am not a doctor, nor claim what I do is healthy, but that’s just my experience. If anyone got tips I’m listening
I often do that too. Sometimes I literally lay on the floor. I’m becoming more and more aware of my limited capacity and I’m trying to figure out better ways to regulate it so I don’t feel entirely zapped all the time.
So much so. It’s so debilitating sometimes too. I’ll focus and stew on not doing the thing I wanna do. And end up just idling and doing nothing.
Sometimes I get obsessed with something at work, an issue or something that I can’t get to work and sometimes I continue what I was doing when I get home, depending on how tired and frustrated I am.
I work in IT.
I feel this in my soul.
This doesnt exactly translate to your experience bc I am a student but last semester I took two upper level math courses and because of how much homework I was doing in those classes and how interesting I found the subject to be, I would end up seeing and thinking about that math until I fell asleep those nights. I dreamed about fucking math 😭. I would go to my girlfriends house an hour after finishing my homework and in the middle of hanging out I would have to stop and go finish a problem I was trying to solve before but couldn’t because I just had a new idea
Yes, all the time
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Duh this happens to me all the time.
Do I ever? Lol I do nothing but. That’s my entire life.
So far every comment has perfectly described my situation. I’m with you 100% OP, I feel like this every single day
Just so you know, this isn’t just an ADHD thing.
Most folk experience it and it’s one of the main causes of burnout.
That said, it’s always worth checking that you are getting enough vitamin d and that your thyroid is working right.
You know, I’ve always heard people talk about burnout, but what exactly is it/feel like?
Same thing for brain fog.
I struggle immensely to stay awake when I get home and usually pass out for a couple hours. Which sucks cause then there’s not a lot I can do with the day
That. That sounds like it, coupled with frustration and feeling a bit overwhelmed.
It is cool to be exhausted after work if it fullfills you and you enjoy it, but most folk need the gaps between to be themselves.
Ahhh well, thank you for the clarification. It’s good to understand it so I can recognize it myself. I’m notoriously bad at self analysis with those types of things.
The train ride home just kills it. I eat. I clean. I sleep.
Yep. Whatever project seems more interesting than what I’m doing at work, but less interesting once I get home and have options.
Regularly I am focused, fixated, excited for another activity - but whatever I am not currently doing. Once I start, I lose interest quickly and end up thinking about some other activity
ALWAYS. Maybe you have ADHD. Weed helps me IMMENSELY with that.
“maybe you have adhd”
Please check the sub name. Lol
What better proof that they know what they’re talking about?
I find that on the contrary, alcohol helps me feel more relaxed and feel less guilty and eventually just do stuff without overthinking it.
I love that you didn’t realize the community you were in
lol, I just realized, haha
Can I ask in which way it helps? Or perhaps, what in particular it helps with? For example, the “feeling guilty” part is very different from “motivation evaporates”, but remedying either, or something else entirely, can be considered helping.
I have the complete opposite experience. Weed removes the guilt of not doing anything, but it usually leads to me doing nothing.
I enjoy weed occasionally because it turns off that hyper critical voice in my head, but it absolutely isn’t a magic motivation medicine for most people.
After using pretty heavily last year and taking a break, I’ve realized that the overall effect is fairly negative, because it just makes me way too ok with doing nothing. Sometimes I need to do nothing and take a break, and it’s great for helping me do that, but for me personally, it’s a major negative when I’m doing it regularly.
Obviously your experience is different (as is everyone’s a little) so feel free to try it, just keep in mind that it can get very easy to get addicted to that “mellow brain” feeling until you realize that all progress on all of your goals have stalled out because it’s easy to just be high all afternoon and evening. There are lots of people who can be motivated and productive while high, but I think I’ve determined that I’m not one of them.
It makes that motivation that evaporated return. And it returns even stronger (like way stronger) than when I initially had it sober.
