My wife and I have always wanted to have a dog and out of an interesting turn of events, we have the opportunity to adopt a 2 year old dog that a family friend cannot take care of anymore (they developed an illness that radically saps their energy).

Super excited but a little worried about making sure the doggo is taken care of properly. We’ll have to drive him back in our car for 3h30 and we have an old overly-affectionate cat.

What do people think? Any tips? Relevant stories? Give me your thoughts and have an awesome day!🙂

  • @LallyLuckFarm@beehaw.org
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    91 year ago

    Congratulations!

    Have treats for the cat ready to go. A perceived loss of attention can cause negative behaviors but having something to balance that loss can help to smooth the transition.

    Dogs thrive on consistency, so be sure to bring home as many of his toys, blankets, and treats as you can, and keep the food consistent. Keep feeding schedules, walking schedules, and bedtimes as “normal” as you can. These things can help to keep the stress of rehoming low, though the 3-3-3 rule posted by another commenter is likely to be close to your experience.

    If his humans have done training, get a list of the cues he knows. If they can shoot a quick video of how they give the cues, that can help bridge the communication gap between you and the pup more quickly - dogs are mostly visual animals, so body position and any hand signals are a large part of how the dog knows what’s being asked of him.

    Have a place for the cat to get away from the dog, and do introductions slowly. Have a place for the dog to get away from the cat, as well. Supervise interactions and play, and be ready to intervene/distract until you’re confident that they’re each respecting each other’s play intensity. If one animal is looking to stop playing, help the other learn to respect that with praise, treats, or physical affection. In that vein - every mammal on earth uses laughing to communicate play intentions. Rapid sneezing is dog laughter. Some dogs are verbal during play - barking and growling is a normal play occurrence and you should be looking at body language in addition to listening.

    Dogs are bad at generalizing. Just because he’s been potty trained does not mean he’ll know where he’s supposed to do his business at your home. This used to be one of the biggest learning curves I’d have to help clients through, so consider him to just not be housetrained. Have some enzymatic cleaner on hand for cleanup, to prevent reoccurrence of accidents in your home. Puppy pads are most useful for cleaning after the fact - putting them down during housetraining can be confusing for dogs, and I don’t recommend them.

    Leslie McDevitt, Sophia Yin, and Karen Pryor are my top three recommended authors for learning to communicate effectively with dogs. If you’re looking for video lessons, Kikopup (Emily Larlham) is one of the best around.

    If you have other questions I’m happy to answer them to the best of my ability.

    • @PerogiBoi@lemmy.caOP
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      1 year ago

      Fantastic. Thank you for this! Gives me a good idea what to expect. I don’t think I’d have stumbled upon this without your help so I appreciate it :)

      Also oof never yelling at this dog ever. I was always yelled at and I turned out a skittish doggo. Not repeating those mistakes.

      • @yenahmik@beehaw.org
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        21 year ago

        The number one secret of dog training: It is just creating a shared language between you and your pup so that they can be successful.

        Are they doing something you don’t want them to? Teach them what you want them to do in that scenario instead. For instance, my dog used to sprint towards the road when he wanted to cross. I taught him to sit instead, and then we crossed whenever he asked by sitting to reinforce the much safer behavior.

        The point is to teach them how to tell you what they want/need in healthy ways, and actually listen when they do what you taught them. Another example, give them a way to tell you they need to go outside (bells they can ring is a good option) and then let them out when they ask in the way you taught them.

        • @PerogiBoi@lemmy.caOP
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          11 year ago

          Very true! I felt this a lot with my cat over the years. You learn their language and slowly work out a shared understanding of some body language and tone of meows.

          Fortunately for us this doggo is already more or less trained (taps the front door when needing to go out), sits and stays and gives his paws. We’re just going to need to help him unlearn the tendency to associate his ball with a reward because he doesn’t know when to stop playing. I’m exhausted haha.

  • @Devi@beehaw.org
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    31 year ago

    You’ve had some lovely advise already which I agree with. Treat the dog kindly, train them with positive reinforcement and love.

    But something I think so many new dog owners neglect is to research the breed. Dogs were selectively bred and some traits like energy level, play style, etc are baked in. For example cocker spaniels are retrievers, they were bred to retrieve game, so they want to have something in their mouth, and a lot of new owners will take away everything they try to take (shoes, socks, human toys) and not give them anything they CAN hold (dog toys) so they start aggressively guarding their prizes from owners and suddenly you have a dangerous dog.

    If you understand the breed then you’ll know what the dogs instincts are telling them and it gives you a head start on making them happy.

    The second thing is, a tired dog is a good dog. If you’re all having a bad day and the dog isn’t listening, then a good long walk followed by a nice sleep will normally sort it out.

    • @PerogiBoi@lemmy.caOP
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      31 year ago

      Right on about needing to have lots of toys available. Our second day of having him we went out and bought lots of different toys for him.

      • @Devi@beehaw.org
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        21 year ago

        Good dog ownership, you saw what he needed and sorted it. You’re starting strong.

    • @SenorBolsa@beehaw.org
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      1 year ago

      Though I will say, retrievers, you can sometimes give them a literal chest full of toys, and really all they want are your napkins and mail.

      I let them shred apart toilet paper tubes though.