Setting up boundaries.
Massive one. People automatically assume those who have defined areas that others are not allowed to access (ie personal/physical contact, topics of communication, literal areas they restrict in their home, etc) are prudish and being willfully obstinate for unfounded reasons, without considering why these boundaries are set in the first place.
The second you inconvenience someone, they assume you’re the problem.
Asking a dog owner to use their leash rather than letting their dog walk up to you or your kids.
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Refusing to engage.
Saying no and not backing down from it
My resting bitch face
A chilly, distant demeanor. Is it an asshole that hates you, or is it an introvert that just wants to go home?
Honestly I’m an extrovert that gets lost in thought sometimes. I have the meanest looking resting removed face when I am. But I’m as gentle as a butterfly and always up for a good conversation if anyone approaches.
resting removed face
What?
I think some instances remove swear words so you just see ‘removed’
That is…really fucking annoying. What do they think we are? 6?
It’s basically the angry look face all the time even thou they’re not angry.
Yes
Offering a concise answer to questions, without softening language.
The way you can tell the difference between honesty and being an asshole is of they say they just “tell it like it is,” they’re assholes.
This is a joke, not a rule, but it’s based in reality.
This seems to be a cultural quirk in North America in particular.
Indeed, I feel quite at home in northern Europe, generally speaking.
Parking in a handicapped parking spot and having no visible disability.
I turn the question around… people who are clearly liars, deceivers… politicians and businessmen that people line up to vote for with their money or public votes. You really wonder what people think an “asshole” is when you see the kind of politicians that get massive support in a population - to a point people have their photograph on the wall of their workplace or home, put stickers on their cars, etc. to support people that are clearly monstrous. A lot of people do not seem to like to study the crowds of Europe 1930’s terrible leaders and just how many lined up to cheer on such persons.
The scientists a person believes also is a huge indicator of who they consider to be an ‘asshole’. Just passively listening to people who support denial of climate change, denial of microscopic germs and virus, etc. The enthusiasm that followers to non-factual science seem to be very high, and they draw crowds in ways that fact-based science does not seem to do.
When you make up fake science out of whole cloth, it’s easy to make up something to that accords with people’s biases. Actual truth is simply less likely to fall into that category, and more likely to be uncomfortably inconvenient or terrifying. There’s nothing fun about global warming, deadly pandemics, nor microplastic pollution.
Fake news never makes demands on its target audience. Sometimes it says “you are the victim”, or “those people are the problem”, or at the very least, “this is fine.” But it never says “if we don’t get our shit together we and our children face a dismal future.” Instead it always appeals to the greedy and the lazy amongst us.
Fake news never makes demands on its target audience.
consumerism, purchasing the sponsor products, donating to the clergy…
Fair enough. Demands that don’t appeal in some way to their id, then.
I do not think more than 0.5% of humanity demonstrates self-awareness or an ability to openly discuss media-consumption bias.
I think people fall in love with dead persons so easily that they will sell out all of living/alive humanity for a storybook.
“Finnegans Wake is the greatest guidebook to media study ever fashioned by man.” - Marshall McLuhan, Newsweek Magazine, page 56, February 28, 1966.
I have never done LSD or any other illegal drugs, but I have read FInnegans Wake: www.LazyWake.com
Well for one, I wish I could tell people no when they ask me to social events without being interpreted as an asshole
“I’d love to, but unfortunately I am busy tonight.”
Still kinda rude. You have to at least imply you’ll try to swing by for a short time, as a bare minimum.
Honestly, in a situation like this, I don’t care. If I’m busy, I’m busy. And if politely telling them that is seen as rude, it’s not me who’s the problem.
I don’t know anyone who doesn’t understand the concept of “I’m busy tonight.” Nor have I ever heard of someone thinking it’s rude to not always be available.
The fact that they have a record.
Look for a pattern, not a single instance. And yet companies and people hold bad decisions of the past against most folks.
Same goes for having no record, aka the famous gap in a resume. It’s not really about being perceived as a dick, but the same applies nonetheless.
Not being a conversational person.
I don’t do small talk very well and I very quickly run put of things to say to someone I don’t know so I don’t like to just talk rubbish with someone, I prefer to remain quiet and get on with what I am doing.
I don’t mean that the person isn’t worth talking to or I don’t like them, if they need something from me or have a question then I’ll galdly answer or help them, but almost everyone takes it as a slight against them when i dont want to engage in idle chit chat and assume I’m an arsehole when I’m really not trying to be.
It took me way too long to realize when someone asks how my weekend was it’s because they want to talk about their weekend
listen, as someone who needs to be social but isnt, it is ok to let there be awkward silences. it is ok.
it isn’t your job to be entertaining. conversation is a 2 way road.
contribute, motherfucker
People don’t need to talk to you if they don’t want to People are so selfish just let people be some of use are on the spectrum and don’t want to be forced into dumb conversations just because you can’t be quite for a few hours
Someone who’s assertive (not to be mistaken for someone who thinks they’re assertive and really is just an asshole).
Someone offering constructive criticism.
Especially those two put together.
Being overly sarcastic, especially online (speaking from experience 👆)
