I’ve been trying to get my SO to agree to getting rid of all the plates and cups except for what we use hasn’t worked yet I should just go solo and take your recommendation it’s a good recommendation
I’m in the same situation - we have a lot of dishes in our house and my partner can manage with multiple dishes… so I have my chosen dishes and then we have a pool of dishes for them to use - they’ve actually struggled with this same issue (they’re not diagnosed but might be ADHD) so while they use a rotation of plates and bowls they have adopted “the chosen coffee mug” to keep from getting overwhelmed by piles of mugs on random surfaces in their office.
My wife and I moved recently. We don’t have a dishwasher at the moment so we chose to have 4 sets of dishes unpacked total so we can make sure to keep up on dishes. 2 meals each uses all the dishes, so we’re forced to clean them daily.