• sun_is_ra@sh.itjust.works
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        2 years ago

        thats probably because he wasnt used to saying them when he was younger

        also people’s mental health varies and your dad might still have better mental health

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          2 years ago

          It seems ableist to assume someone’s mental health is what causes homophobia

          My grandpa had dementia when he died and thought I was his brother, and I also never heard him say queerphobic words

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        2 years ago

        Tbh the word he used is not that bad, or at least is used in many contexts in informal conversation, but only in very few I would consider it a “slur”. I wouldn’t say it translates well to English.

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            2 years ago

            Pope dying unfortunately only means another one will come. I wish it was this easy…

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                2 years ago

                Dude I am from Rome, I want to see the Vatican in flames since way before people got upset from a very small thing among the many more serious reasons.

                Few months ago when the Pope made timid openings to the LGBTQ community he was celebrated as a revolutionary. I am just saying, the word itself is not that bad and if this is the reason you feel such anger, and not the fact that the Church is an institution who did so many atrocious things (instituzionalized misogyny and homophobia among the many), then your judgment is just poor and you are getting angry for the wrong reason.

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                  2 years ago

                  Yikes. Lecturing a gay person about how homophobia is not a big deal is not a good look.

                  And idgaf where you’re from, homophobe. You’re a gross and disgusting person.

                  If you live in Rome, maybe you can [redacted] the pope, who is a queerphobe. I’ve never celebrated him. I’d never celebrate that ghoul or his organized hate group with all its brainwashed fools

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                    2 years ago

                    So you have problems reading I guess. I am saying the slur is not the problem (because it’s not that bad in this instance), the institutionalized homophobia is one of the many systemic problems of the church that is not going anywhere even if you get a pope that speaks using pronouns.

                    So take a chill pill, being gay or even being right doesn’t give you the right to be a nasty person. Cheers