Sure, “nice” needs some definition.
But that’s your call. I’m asking you if you are a nice person.
I’m balanced.
I’ll help you push you car. I’ll hold the door for anyone, I’ll let you in, in traffic. I’ll over-tip the wait staff, even the ones having a bad day. I give kids in my neighborhood freezypops when it’s hot AF. I’ll go out of my way to make sure your food allergy is covered and you’ll have safe snacks at my gathering.
I won’t give the guy begging on the corner money. I won’t help you forever if you never reciprocate. You skip a paycheck, I won’t wait for you to get it sorted.
I won’t remember that you hate mushrooms. I won’t remember your kids name or wife’s face. I’ll forget you birthday if it’s not in my calendar. I’ll tell you I need to focus on something for an hour and go take a nap.
We’ll get along just fine. But I will remember the kid’s face if they’re cool.
I’m afraid not, I’ve never been to France much less be familiar enough to claim to be one of them.
It’s very dry there.
I like to think I am. I used to be a piece of shit, and I’ve worked really hard over the last 9 years to become a better person. I don’t always succeed, as the old demons like to pop their heads out every now and again, but I do put forth great effort most times.
We’re all on a journey. None of us have arrived. The effort counts.
I take “nice” to mean something very different than “good” or “kind”. No, I am not a nice person. I am inclined to be an honest asshole over a nice liar. I try my best to be good, kind, understanding, etc., but “nice” is, in my books, more about manners than good acts or genuine understanding. And I generally feel that time and effort spent on attempting to be “nice” is much better spent on genuinely empathizing with and supporting people, even when that support isn’t kind or well-mannered at a glance.
I think I just take issue with the word “nice”.
I like you. I’m the same way. Never met an asshole that was being dishonest. That’s why I feel like I can trust them more than I can trust ‘nice’ people.
So yeah, I might not be nice. In fact, sometimes I’m a downright asshole. But I’ll usually give you the shirt off of my back to help you if you need it.
Fuck you mind your own business.
I try to be when I can muster up the courage to speak. I’ve always been taught to treat others like how you want to be treated and since I can’t handle people yelling and screaming I try to avoid that altogether. Even if you’re mean to me, I’ll try to be nice or I just don’t say anything.
I try. I don’t always succeed.
No.
I am a good person with a capacity for kindness. The difference? It’s not reflex.
Nice is the guy waving you through at a stop sign when it’s their turn. Sure there’s good intention, but seriously? No.
No. I am kind. I am genuine. I am not nice. I have become too tired to put on a mask anymore.
I try to be, but don’t always hit the mark.
Nice to a fault. I think it’s because I try to be the person I always wish I would have had access to because I’ve never really had any support from anyone.
I, the same way. I’m in a pretty outspoken city, but I’m a bit more of a just give in and avoid having to yell at people person. I can get upset and yell when need be, but I don’t employ that tactic unless I lose my cool. Otherwise, I’m overly amenable and very much of the mindset “they’re probably having a tough day” or “it’s not really worth it/this doesn’t really affect me more than my slight disappointment.” And then I just get over it. Or sometimes I’ll think more about it later and wish I acted differently, but right now I can’t really think of a time where that happened, so did it really matter in the long run that I didn’t push harder for myself?
This is all ironic because my face doesn’t usually seem like the face of a nicer person. I grew up with rbf, mainly because I spent my teen years very angry about everything.
I’m far too nice.
I’m nice to service workers. I am not nice to people on the freeway. Take from that what you will.
i want and try to be but i don’t succeed every day. i hate thinking about those times when i don’t succeed, but being mindful of those times is a big part of what i can do to succeed more often.
75%. I have my moments, plus it’s hard to stay nice when there are so many assholes in the world.
