Basically title, every bit of online dating nowadays is either Match or Meta, and we’re all about breaking corporate chains right?

So these are the thoughts I had:

  1. Matches based on simple user selection: age range, lifestyle, hobbies etc. None of that dumb algorithm stuff that makes you reset your profile every month.

  2. ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.

  3. E2EE for messaging (and anything else if it’s possible).

  4. Someone wrote an open-source anti-CSAM script for Lemmy recently, I hope we could adapt that to our use.

  5. Just, like, everyone have a good time on this app, we’re here for love lol

I am not a coder, so I would have no idea how to do this, but I wonder about the interest in such a creation. Maybe some of you out there could make something I could use to get a date (pls).

  • Polar@lemmy.ca
    772·
    3 years ago

    Neckbeards fighting about Linux. No girls in sight.

    Like Lemmy.

  • Steak@lemmy.ca
    606·
    3 years ago

    I don’t think there’s any chick’s here dude. It’s just us.

  • some_guy@lemmy.worldBanned
    371·
    3 years ago

    I swear there’s a group of people who want everything to be “federated” without really understanding what that means. It’s cryptobros 2.0. Let’s make a block-chain based dating app too!

    Congrats you discovered a new technology - not everything needs to run on that technology.

      • LufyCZ@lemmy.world
        51·
        3 years ago

        If you’re actually interested:

        Ethereum was originally supposed to scale by sharding - essentially splitting the chain into X shards that are independent but can talk to each other.

        Better solutions have been come up with so it didn’t end up happening, but it’s the closes thing to a “federated” blockchain.

        • redballooon@lemm.ee
          21·
          3 years ago

          Your comment sounds like a Brandon Sanderson piece, with shards and all.

          For a moment I was lost because there is no shard Ethereum.

    • shrugal@lemm.ee
      81·
      3 years ago

      Federation is not just a new technology, it’s a new (imo better!) way to govern and distribute power in online services. Of course we should explore the possibility of creating federated alternatives for everything, we would be dumb not to. And it’s fine if for some of the services the answer is no, that doesn’t make the question bad!

      The problem with Crypto imo is that many people don’t actually want to improve things, especially the loud ones. They just want to make a profit and have no problem scamming others for it.

      • TauZero@mander.xyz
        7·
        3 years ago

        a new (imo better!) way to govern and distribute power in online services

        I’d argue federation is the old way, the original way the internet was built, and the centralized walled-garden ecosystems ran by FAANG is the new way. Email, usenet, even http and world wide web itself are examples of federation.

        • shrugal@lemm.ee
          31·
          3 years ago

          Yeah I think you’re right, in fact federated systems have existed even before the internet. But it’s new for the kinds of services we use today, like globally connected instant messengers and social networks.

  • Oyster_Lust@lemmy.world
    26·
    3 years ago

    I think people need to go outside and interact with each other in person. That’s the best way to date.

    • flubba86@lemmy.world
      22·
      3 years ago

      It’s true. At 28 I’d been dateless for 10 years, doing the sad neckbeard incel thing. One day a friend of a friend received two free tickets to a speed dating event. He didn’t want to go, but he said he would go if someone else went with him for moral support. In a very out-of-character move for me, I volunteered and went along with him. It was the first time in over 5 years I’d been to a bar. We did 5 minute dates with 15 different women. It was the most women I’ve spoken to in one night in my whole life. There was only one candidate I connected with, I submitted her as a match. The next day I got an email saying that she had matched with me too! I got her email, and chatted via email for about 6 weeks, then organised to go on a real date. The rest is history from there, we’re coming up to our 10th wedding anniversary.

      So yes, going outside, interacting with people, it works. Its not a trick guys.

    • AlolanYoda@mander.xyz
      16·
      3 years ago

      You know, I am single and have been curious about dating apps for a while. But I never really got over the hurdle of making a profile because of how much of a hellscape it seems. I may be curious enough to make a profile in this website tonight (fully expecting 0 users in my entire country)

    • swab148@startrek.websiteOP
      10·
      3 years ago

      Thanks! I’m almost wondering if a federated dating platform would even work, given the moderation challenges.

      Edit: Also there were like, three women in my area, so that’s problematic.

    • AlolanYoda@mander.xyzEnglish
      3·
      3 years ago

      I tried it. Pretty cool, but the closest user to me was 270 km away. Maybe one day I’ll meet her, but for now I guess it doesn’t have critical mass for me.

  • Clbull@lemmy.world
    22·
    3 years ago

    Wouldn’t work.

    Much of the online dating market is an oligopoly run by two main players: Match Group and Bumble Inc.

    Bumble Inc own Bumble and Badoo while Match Group own nearly every other major platform like Hinge, Tinder, OkCupid, POF and a few others.

    This oligopoly is the reason why mainstream online dating is an unmoderated mess filled with scammers, OnlyFans advertising bots and otherwise fake users. Said users inflate the company’s registration metrics massively and sucker people into paying several times the price of a WoW subscription just to see who liked their profile. Major switches to mobile also make it much harder for users to run reverse image searches and weed out these fakes more quickly.

    A dating platform on the fediverse would be an even worse experience, not because of corporate greed but because inviting everybody and their mother to create a new instance creates serious content moderation issues. Expect this platform to be even more flooded with bots, spammers, scammers and other bad actors.

  • Oka@lemmy.mlEnglish
    4·
    3 years ago

    I’m a coder and I have no idea how to do this

    Do you want it to show matches with people who are around your location, or anyone on the internet? If it’s the latter, maybe try starting a dating community, if there isn’t one already.

    You could have people start a thread with the basic info: age, location, gender, sexuality, etc. Then what you’re looking for: age range, hookup or long term, etc.

    The comments could be general questions like an AMA to get a better idea.

    If someone likes your style, they can send OP a DM

  • Fedizen@lemmy.world
    41·
    3 years ago

    the problem with dating platforms is like they open and people start mixing and then many just leave the dating pool as they match up or give up. The remaining people lean a little less dateable. Once this short term process repeats a hundred times there’s always some degree of permament toxic residents on a dating site.

    This begs a feature dating sites should have is a shutdown date the minute they open.

  • JasSmith@sh.itjust.works
    34·
    3 years ago

    If it’s on Lemmy it would be a hilarious political purity test to see who could virtue signal harder. It would be insufferable. That’s why most users don’t have any kids or spouses. I honestly couldn’t think of a worse place to set up a dating service.