• Swallowtail@beehaw.org
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    3 years ago

    Not discrediting the fact that guys can be dumbasses sometimes and go in with guns blazing, but perhaps sometimes it’s just people being ignorant and not a gender thing? My wife has killed multiple plants of mine (some of which I really cared about) and my dad’s partner has done the same. I don’t hold it against my wife because she’s just not very knowledgeable about gardening and it’s my hobby, and she was doing me a favor just caring for my garden in my absence.

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      3 years ago

      Yea, I wonder the same. It’s hard to keep some plants alive- especially if you genuinely have little knowledge about plants.

      I have a garden but it took a lot of research to learn how to keep my plants alive and that was after killing the first set, because it turns out “just water” isn’t actually all there is to it.

      • liv@beehaw.org
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        3 years ago

        I wonder that too.

        But that inspired me to put the call back out on Twitter (now known as X) for women to share their stories.

        Seems like a pretty strong selection bias.

        I say this as a woman who a) is bad at plants and b) has only had plants killed by another woman. There is an element of seeing my things as forgettable/less valuable so I can see how the author sees the whole thing as gendered, but I’m not convinced.