Give me your worst, Lemmy! Absolutely nothing is off limits. Let’s get fucking weird!
I post this here because /c/iama doesn’t seem to be a thing…
Don’t hold back you jerks!
EDIT: It’s just about 05:00 for me. Night night! I’ll answer any other questions. In a few hours!
Vim or Emacs?
Vim all the way!!
Are you AVAB (assigned Vim at birth) or are you trans-editor?
Definitely AVAB. I love working through a terminal. One cannot do everything on iTerm2 as one could do on a Debian distro, but it gets pretty close.
Have you even tried emacs?
Gotta be honest…Maybe once.
sudo apt install mousepad
For most tasks, it’s fine. I originally bought a MacBook because I wanted to do Obj-C programming for iPhone OS, as it was called at that time. However, my ex-wife became pregnant and gave birth to our son. He is almost 16 now, and I cannot seem to find the joy in anything that I once did. He is a sophomore now, once he starts college, I will try to chase my dream of being an indie iOS dev. I really wanted to be a r.petrich of JB fame, but it seems that JB is not for the masses anymore.
I would recommend giving it a try, there is doomemacs if you’re feeling like learning or spacemacs if you don’t. Both have a vi-like usage.
This is essential. Can’t give one a reach-around without knowing that.
What’s the hardest part of being out as trans, other than the obvious transphobes? The subtle stuff most people don’t think about, I mean.
For me, the hardest part is trying to figure out where I belong. In Viet culture, at a party, the guys hang with the guys, and the girls with the girls. Even when I put a full face on, I never feel like I am one of the girls. It doesn’t help that everyone knew me before I came out. So I don’t fit in anywhere. It’s lonely. My sister Chi Man tries to help, but I am usually the odd one out. This has been going on for years now, so I have tried to make peace with it. This is a lonely life. With that said, I do not regret my decision to live as the person I am meant to be.
All I need in this life is my son and my best friend. That is enough for me.
I’m glad you have a good relationship with your son. :) I’m one of those weirdos that’s super close with my mom, and it’s an absolutely awesome relationship to have a parent that you’re close with. Not enough people get that.
I prefer MacOS overall. Explain to me why I am so wrong!
My rPi is obvs on Debian, but does Plex really count?
Mac on the laptop + Linux on the server = pure heaven.
As long as you don’t use a Mac in a business environment
What’s your opinion of the designated hitter rule in major league baseball?
Eh, I guess it’s ok. I don’t feel one way or another about it.
Your opinion on programmer socks?
Hold up, are we talking about those knee high socks that don’t match with any clothing what-so-ever??
What’s the weirdest thing that’s happened to you since coming out as trans?
Let’s find the benchmark for making the questions weird.
That is a great question!
I need to preface this by saying that my entire friend group is Viet.
In Viet culture, male and female roles are explicitly defined. That means that, generally, the girls hang with the girls, and the guys hang with the guys.
The weirdest part is kind of sad. I don’t fit in with the girls because I am not feminine enough, and the guys try to grab my tits as a joke. I don’t belong anywhere.
My best friend, Chi Man is the one that helps me stay grounded to this earth.
Otherwise, it’s the usual contract custodian doesn’t get a good look at me, so they warn me about going into the men’s room at work (where I was specifically told to go )
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I’m just here to talk about Rampart.
Because the topic is NSFW : How did transition impacted your sex-life ?
That’s a great question!
Transitioning left me with a tiny “dating” pool. Most of my “dates” were with chasers on Grindr or Taimi.
Except for the 2 sexual assaults, I’ve been fine with serving my purpose. After the 2nd rape, though, I gave up on casual encounters and dating in general. I haven’t had an actual relationship with anyone in about 7 years.
I will likely never meet someone who likes me for me. It took me YEARS to accept this difficult truth. It contributes to my depressive episodes all of the time.
I’d rate myself as a 6/10 on a good day. It’s just really hard to find guys that are interested in me beyond the fetish that they see. It’s easier to give up.
Holy shit, 2 rapes…
So sorry that you had to go through this. And I wish you all the best for the future
I guess my question’s always been that since gender is (to my incomplete understanding) a social construct and can change, and transgender people seek to change to a gender that feels more appropriate, how did you (a) know what felt right, (b) that what felt right wasn’t completely appropriate for your gender and the active definition of gender needed to change, and © where does chemical and surgical transition factor in for a gender based thing when attempting to find for comfortable self? Because that seems like a sex (in the clinical terminology) thing as much as a gender one (which of course there’s probably a connection, I guess I’m just not clear where the line really breaks.)
To be clear, I think my questions are entirely too “rationalizing a deep emotional and person thing” so I don’t really expect an answer, I’ve just never been invited to address the question to anyone before.
Not OP, but gender identity is a real biological thing that is linked to brain chemistry. Gender expression is the social construct. Sex is your body phenotype, which correlates to your genotype.
Thank you, I think that helps parse out where I was unclear. There’s specifics in the language at play. It makes me wonder how often bad actors prevention of even small distinctions being discussed has made it muddier and harder for everyone else.
What’s the trick to making a good grill cheese sandwich?
Whatever you do, do not use mayo.
This is patently incorrect! Mayo on the outside is the best grilled cheese exterior!
finally! whoever told me to use Mayo on the outside is a clown. i ruined both a sandwich and mayo at the same time!
High on what and why?
Usually, I take edibles. They slow my mind down enough to relax and possibly sleep. Tonight, however, I’ve had some very good cocaine.
Fun fact: In Vietnamese, we call it trang. It’s pronounced like Chan + g in English! Think John, but with a Ch! Then add a “g” at the end. That is the best way I can say it. I can also teach you to curse if you are interested!
Edit: It occurs to me that I did not post a “why”. Why am I high? Because the meds they give don’t help enough. So I use alcohol and coke, on the weekends, to fill the void.
Aren’t you worried you will get addicted to that stuff?
I am definitely worried. About 2 years ago, I used 1g+ of cocaine per day, at minimum. I had some tonight for the first time this month. I credit my best friend and sister for helping me climb out of that deep and terrible hole. I bought a ball tonight. But I gave it to her to hold. I have no access to it. It will likely last us 2-3 months
how the hell did you afford 1g+ per day lmao
I was doing 2g per week and it financially ruined me.
You’re probably aware of how those supply estimates tend to exponentially shrink after each endeavour. I hope you told your friend/sister to be super strict with rationing.
I’m going to give unsolicited advice. Make an appointment with your psych on Monday. Let them know you’re not happy and your meds aren’t working. The correct med combo is absolutely worth pursuing.
My doctor switched me from prozac to wellbutrin and effexor and honestly, the difference is night and day. Haven’t felt the need to use coke in over two years. Haven’t been drunk since July last year. I don’t miss it.
Also, meds are half the work. There’s nothing wrong with spending a Saturday night alone, but how often do you do this?
Yo, thank you for your reply!
My psychiatrist is trying to help me find a combo that will help me get a leg up out of the pit that is depression. She knows that I am dealing with the racing thoughts, all of the time, with edibles. She also knows that 1-3 times per month, I drink myself into a stupor and balance it with coke.
Supporting a 1g per day habit is terrible. Most days I would eat one pack of instant noodles and an egg. I’d go to work high out of my mind, which on 3rd shift at a small publisher was possible. I slept with a 40cal under my pillow because I thought my connect was going to break in to collect what I owed. $1,300 per week was gone as soon as I got paid. I had to cash in change so that I could get a pack of cigs. Do not recommend!!
Which meds are they?
I know I should not drink, and should definitely not use cocaine with it. I’m on Lamictal 200mg x 2 per day, plus lexapro in the AM. I only drink on Saturday nights. I know it is not helpful, but it’s the best I got. I used to be a twice or three times daily cocaine user. Now, it’s every two weeks, or more.
Tonight was a lot of beer + a lot of Hennessy VSOP + some really really good coke. Give me your worst, Lemmy. Reddit used to pick me apart. Try and see if you can!
How are/were you able to answer all of the questions in such a coherent manner, going as far to properly using markdown for certain responses? (Coming from a person who hasn’t had experience with getting high)
I’m not quite sure to be honest. The hangover was, and still is, insane. I shouldn’t have been able to form coherent thoughts, let alone proper formatting.
What’s your favourite alcoholic beverage?
I love a good White Russian 😎
Ah yes. The Caucasian!
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I used to ride flatland 20 years ago. I still have a DK Opsis that I bought in 2012 I think. I rarely ride these days. I really wanted to learn to do a whopper.
