She was a 10, I’m a solid 4 when I get all done up.
I thought you were talking about age…
Damn. No. We were in our early 20s.
If she’s not done up would she be a 6-7? You need to catch her then!
Seriously though she’s a 10 in your eyes because she’s I assume pretty plus you like who she is as a person. Maybe you haven’t accounted for how she sees you as a person. I guess what I’m saying is we all assume pretty people won’t be into us because we’re not attractive. But by doing so you’re judging things by looks too. If you truly like the person take a shot and get to know her and show her who you are.
Honestly finding love is a grind. Not by pure chance. I tried and failed so much before I met my wife and I owe it to those failures. It made me a better partner but also a way better first few dates.
She was literally the girl who people stopped and got her to pose for professional pictures on the beach and I’m the guy they’d forget was there. But we got along great.
Crippling self doubt, what else?
She trusted me as a friend and really loved the asshole. I knew him a lot longer than she did and really couldn’t stand the guy, and I don’t think he liked me either, but she didn’t know that. I was dating someone else too, but my gf didn’t compare to her.
Funny thing is she’d tell me about their arguments and disputes and 90% of the time, she was in the wrong and I’d tell her that. I couldn’t believe I was defending him but I was honest and she appreciated my sharing a dude’s perspective. He followed her to college, and I don’t think he’d have even went if not for her, and they got married after. Still married now 30+ years later. I can only believe he grew into a much better man than he seemed to be as a kid, and I’m glad I didn’t interfere with their relationship. I eventually found my soul-mate and best friend so wouldn’t change a thing, but I can’t help but wonder how things might have played out in some alternate universe.
If it helps, I saw you arguing with her in that universe because of how you made the morning coffee too strong again after married for 7 years. The feelings between you guys were genuine and passionate but for many times you called me up late at night for a quick beer, complaining how things would have been different.
I’m glad to see you in a better place in this universe. Cherish what you have now, bro.
Lol… no worries. I have no doubt I’m with the woman I was made for. 14 years of marriage and we’ve never even had a harsh word between us and we love each other’s company. It’s a rare match and both of us, having been in bad marriages the first time around, know just how fortunate we are to have found each other. As I said, I wouldn’t go back in time and change a thing.
Besides, my wife and I both know there’s no such thing as coffee that’s too strong. It’d be a fight every morning! 🙂
It felt amazing to be constantly flirting. We were more in love with the eternal crush than eachother. Always a word away from spelling out the truth, but the dream was more exciting than any possible reality. We would spend the early hours talking remotely about nothing and everything at the same time. When we did meet in person among common friends, we would lock knowing gazes. We both had our own relationships, but kept this small cozy flame secretly burning over the years, and never let it develop into a full blown blaze in fear of losing what was so magical about it.
Cause I was the gender they weren’t into (repeat x30).
Where are all the bi folk when you need 'em
While that’s ideal, yes, I’d settle for more lesbians. 😄
Two people with the same sexuality and preferences just understand each other the best, don’t they
Lesbians only want to do the fun parts of sex. All killer no fill’er.
(My sincere apologies for that last sentence, it’s both inaccurate and tasteless, but I couldn’t help myself)
Tasteless would be if I responded with the culinary properties of my gender fluid
The time before, I got laughed out of the room.
I’ve tried 4 times, 1 was a complete rejection that nearly ruined a friendship, the second was a weird soft-rejection that led to a friends relationship that felt a lot like I was taking advantage of this person. That ended when they moved away.
The other two led to relationships, one lasted a month and ended with me getting dumped. Second is my current girlfriend.
All of these happened within a year, starting when I was 22. Before that first rejection I had never made a move on anyone because I had 0 self confidence and could only see women as sexual objects. The girl who first rejected me was the first one that I liked for genuine reasons, which allowed me to change the way I looked at women. I now have a lot of female friends and hardly ever think about women I see in a sexual way, when 2 years ago I couldn’t see a woman without thinking that way. I owe a lot to the girl who rejected me, and we are now friends again, for which I am grateful.
I never had to confess, she knew. And I knew she liked me back. But she could never bring herself to go for it, over fear of ruining the friendship. But her refusal to go for it made it so that over time the friendship was ruined anyways from me feeling jerked around/used.
I wanted kids of my own and she didn’t. It never would have worked.
There’s this girl I’ve known for almost 10 years and we always-maybe-kinda liked each other, but we have this “non verbal agreement” of not bothering one another because in reality we both know we would tear each other apart in the end.
There are some character traits that are funny as long as you are friends but would be destructive as partners.She’s straight and I’m bi. I didn’t see a point in confessing. Besides, we were really good friends and I didn’t want to make things awkward between us. It did hurt for a long time, though.
After being friends with her for a year, one year less than the amount of time I had a massive crush on her, I asked her out. She rejected me, but we agreed to stay friends and she assured me that nothing happened and we can continue like before. However, I now feel like I’m being used (or how do you say it). She doesn’t talk to me as much, only contacts me when she has a tech problem. That doesn’t seem like a friendship. When I confronted her, she said she wasn’t ghosting me, stopped for like a week, then continued.
I still think about her every day.
Ah, man, this hurts a lot. It appears that you were keen in helping her with whatever kind of problems, personal or business, but she wasn’t in a reciprocal place.
Sometimes after a failed confession, the reality of course doesn’t match your expectation. I just ask myself that if it’s someone else, what I would expect from them in the response of friends helping each other out. She might truly be using you, or anyone who fell into her trap.
I’m not saying she’s an abusive woman but those definitely exist. Glad you made your way out.
She isn’t attracted to anyone romantically, nothing about romance made sense for her at all. She made that point multiple times on our conversations. It’d be best for both of us if I won’t confess, since I cannot imagine damaging our relationship as close friends.
I was just a kid, get off my back!
Often it’s because I’m just too afraid because the person is ridiculously good looking that I don’t think I have a chance, rejection always sucks. I’ve been with an attractive person or two in my time, so I know it’s not impossible, I’m ok-ish on a good day, but I know I’ll be so… distracted by their good looks that I probably won’t have anything intelligent to say.
There’s also the chance that either of us is in a relationship or workmates, which just isn’t a good mix and eventually leads to problems. Otherwise, I wish casual sex was just a common thing that people just did without any stigma attached to it (assuming STDs weren’t so rampant and safe sex was also just as common).
