• Driftking@lemmy.mlOP
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        2 years ago

        For the purpose of disclosure. I just cant live with myself if I do not tell prospective partners when they ask. I know there is a difference between avoidance and lying, however, I value honesty. Not implying that you are not or should thinknas I do

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        2 years ago

        OP’s out there on first dates asking if they have a problem with him doing it…

        I can’t imagine women are bringing it up

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          2 years ago

          Not necessarily first dates. I just answer truthfully when the topic comes up. I don’t want to have it be a problem further down the line

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            2 years ago

            I just answer truthfully when the topic comes up

            It’s just really hard to believe a women asks if you’ve had sex with a sex worker…

            Most people don’t ask for numbers, let alone details.

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              2 years ago

              It has unfortunately come up before, hence my aprehension in approaching the topic.

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                Seems like you got the intended consequence. If you want to be honest and your partner can’t handle that honesty, maybe it is better to keep looking. I have a very hard time maintaining lies to continue relationships, and as a result I have very few, but incredibly high-quality friends.