She just wasn’t ever happy with anything. Swore up and down she loved me, but she was always mat at me and couldn’t ever articulate why. I wanted to be better, but after a while, I just wanted to stop treading on eggshells every time I was around her.
I hope she has found something or someone to make her happy.
im was in the same boat a couple weeks ago its been lonely :/
He got weirdly into this kind of toxic masculinity, misogynistic bullshit that I was not down with. It’s one thing to play with that consensually during sex, but I’m not okay with becoming a mini Andrew Tate clone
I just don’t think straight relationships are for me.
My partner’s mental health issues, her family’s mental health issues, my partner’s decision to return to their home country during a global pandemic (somewhere I couldn’t follow) leaving me to fend for myself, and that was a decade long relationship down the tubes, welp.
I am childfree, she wasn’t. 100% not going to work, but we ended on good terms all things ocnsidered.
Just wondering what about her having kids was a deal breaker for you?
She didn’t have kids already, but she wanted to have them in the future. I absolutely do not want kids, I even got a vasectomy in my early 20s.
It’s not really an issue you can compromise on as a couple, so it was better to part amicably than pursue something with no future, for both of our sakes.
I’m in the middle of a divorce.
uhh… We’re completely different people. Physical intimacy is really important to her, and I’m newly discovered asexual. I mean, I was always uncomfortable with sex, but I never realized how. I thought I had some kind of sex anxiety or something, but that’s not it. So I can’t provide what she needs and she can’t provide what I need.
Also, I’m kind of feminine and submissive in most aspects in life, and she prefers a more confident, in charge kind of guy.
We had grown apart already but the final straw when my wife went behind my back against my wishes and got a (bad) boob job
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Hahaha its all good man, I move on pretty fast and that’s years ago now
He said it was his mental health, and he could have no desires or feelings for someone. He said I was amazing and that he’d never met anyone remotely like me.
However he’s now told me he’s seeing someone, so I think he’s full of shit.
I think he was lying.
He had a lot of mental health issues that he just wouldn’t get help with.
He ended up being upset a lot because I didn’t “react the way [he] wanted me to”. In the end, I really did care about him a lot, but his clinginess and codependency on me was far too much for me to handle. He made it clear that he was unhappy, but also depended on me to make him happy. I tried very hard, but it was never good enough. Did my best to encourage and support him, but he just couldn’t do right for himself.
He really was such a beautiful person, but loving someone is often not enough.
I really do hope that he is doing well now, wherever he is.
I really feel this one. still wonder if I could have done more, but maybe it’s for the best in the end
I have the same thought sometimes, but you can’t help someone who refuses help. They’re essentially hurting you in that way, and that’s not something that love can ever fix.
It’s not selfish to think about your own well-being in a relationship. It’s like a drowning person continually holding onto you because they’re afraid of dying alone: you both end up drowning.
You can’t keep hurting yourself for someone who keeps stepping into danger. Eventually, they need to learn to take another route. If they refuse or show that they really just can’t, that’s not a failing on you. You should not feel guilty for that. You’re important, too.
Doesn’t mean it doesn’t suck, of course. But it’s not your fault. You tried. You loved them. It’s okay. It’s not your fault.
^Sounds like BPD to me.
Her being a narcissist.
Probably my mental health issues, but I honestly can’t really be too sure
Also, she ended up moving away and that was another big part of it. These two together just totally killed it. Of course there were other little things but I attribute most of the reason to the aforementioned problems.
I want to be back in a stable state and doing better with myself, but I feel like I’ve already screwed up every chance I’ve had at this point. There’s no way she’d take me back but it is what it is, I guess. She’s really great and being with her made me feel something again.
He didn’t want to be with someone clingy but framed it as codependency, when in reality I was going through an anxious attachment phase because I didn’t want to fuck it up. My incessant worrying was to blame but his lack of empathy made it worse. In the end I think I dodged a bullet because he was a functional alcoholic.
Just curious, do you think your attachment anxiety was the result of how a prior relationship(s) ended? Because I suffer from it a bit now and I’m pretty sure that is a fairly big reason.
Definitely! I had such a streak of bad dates and relationships that I felt so traumatized. It made me so nervous while dating him that I was literally shaking when I felt that things weren’t going right.
Funnily enough, two years later, now I feel the opposite. I don’t really care about dating and I feel like I’d be the one detached. I just can’t be bothered with giving so much for getting nothing in return anymore.
Well, you know they say, “The minute you stop looking…”. Wish you the best of luck whether single or otherwise!
she smash my things
The relationship had been becoming more and more difficult for me to maintain, and it should never be difficult to be with someone, so I was on the edge. She had a lot of problems. Then she started causing drama with my brother’s fiancee for no reason, and that was enough for me.
Time zones… LDR suck.
