Brand, thing, behavior, method, advice, mantra, etc.
I swear by Blackwing pencils.
Also, the ‘two minute rule’, which has really improved my life: “if it takes two minutes or less to do, just do it now; if it takes longer, schedule it.” I’ve got untreated attention issues and it’s very easy for me to notice something needing done, and overlook or procrastinate it because it seems inconvenient in the moment. Having a totally painless rule that forces me to acknowledge that thing I should pick up, that trash bag I should change, etc, or, to at least put on my calendar anything I mustn’t forget in the long run has been great for me.
Learn to be curious. Don’t know that word, define it. Never heard of that person. Wikipedia. Ever wonder how a combustion engine works. Look it up. I grew up when I had to write things down and go the library. We live in an age of wonder with unlimited knowledge at your fingertips. There is no excuse for ignorance today. You’re just being indolent. Learn to be curious 🧐
Also. Admit when you are wrong and apologize.
There is no excuse for ignorance today. Your just being indolent
Fucksake 😂
Autocorrect. I should’ve added not to be pedantic because you’re insecure about your intelligence.
Edit: That was mean. I’m sorry.
I say a variation of this to my kids almost every week. It boggles the mind how, with such an easy access to all the information in the world, they don’t know something and just shrug it off instead of searching for information (90% of times a simple google search would do). I imagine myself at their age with such resources at my disposal: I’d have been a much happier (and knowledgeable) kid!
Yes, yes. This is me. I also love a quote adjacent to curiousity.
Be curious, not judgemental - From Ted Lasso, originally by Walt Whitman
Don’t ever, for any reason, do anything to anyone for any reason ever, no matter what, no matter where, or who, or who you are with, or where you are going, or where you’ve been… ever, for any reason whatsoever…
What say we order in some pasta?
Just a copy for me, thanks.
“You are under no obligation to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago” - Alan Watts
This one is a bit hard-won for me. You see I used to be an asshole. It was my brand. I thought “it’s just in my nature”.
Fortunately, I was also a student of religion (mostly because I was a militant atheist. Know your enemy and all that). Studying Buddhism, I began to observe the nature of self. I found enough distance from it to see its transient nature.
I realized being an asshole was a choice and I could just as easily choose otherwise. Soon I began to discover this was true of most character traits.
I’m not saying you don’t have consistent patterns of behavior. I’ll hopefully always be curious and analytical. But for the most part, the way you conduct yourself and where you focus your attention is a choice.
So, if you’re not happy with who you are maybe don’t be so attached to the idea of 'who you are". And if that seems hard, observe what you pay your attention to and try to find the distance between observation and behavior. In that gap lies the choice you make, consciously or not, to be “you”.
No offense, brother, but this is a great example of my swear-by.
Don’t write a “wall of text.” Even if a reader is interested, it’s hard to read the whole thing.
Separate your wall into smaller sections, use bullet points (esp at work) if it helps.
Use small sentences. Forget what they told you about keeping similar ideas in one paragraph. You’re not Salinger, and no one is expecting you to be.
This is a digital age, and our job as not-salinger is to convey information.
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No offense taken
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These are salient points
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I edited my post
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I hope it’s easier to digest now
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Thank you for the constructive criticism
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Try leave everyone and everything better than you find it.
Invest in anything that comes between you and the ground; shoes, mattress, and tires.
You beat me to it by a minute or two!
Don’t forget office chairs if you have a desk job!
and lover!
Nice
If you wouldn’t take advice from someone, then don’t accept their criticism.
When it comes to food: Try everything once. You never know if you like it if you never try it.
I’m not talking get a whole plate of the food, but just try a small bite.
I had an ex who wouldn’t try anything, it was infuriating. I asked him once whether he liked a vegetable, he said no, I asked how it had been cooked when he had it as maybe he’d like it if it was done a different way, and he said he’d never tried it. The only vegetable he’d eat was broccoli. He got upset when I said he had the eating habits of a toddler but I stand by that.
At least his one veg is a cruciferous veg as opposed to something like a potato which some think counts as one.
Oh we did have that argument. Also cereal. I’m amazed I lasted a year with him.
Cereal as a vegetable?
Yup!
God he really was a knobhead.
I would add to this: if there’s a food you don’t like after trying it, still try it again if you end up somewhere famous for it.
Don’t skimp on anything that separates you from the ground: shoes, tires, mattress, etc. Your body will thank you later
That’s a great heuristic! I had to learn all of those individually and in part painfully.
Don’t buy cheap daily use items.
Shoes Mattress Car TV Computer
That doesn’t mean buy the most expensive thing. if you rely on this thing to get you through the day, get yourself something of quality. Do your research. Often times, buying the more expensive thing now, can be cheaper in the long run.
Secondly: Use mental health professionals. Go to a therapist, psychologist, or anyone else trained to help people mentally. For years I advocated for my employees to seek help. I built work schedules around their appointments. I could tell that it help or productivity as a team. I did this for years. Finally, this year, I went to see a therapist myself. I’ve been having depression problems for a while but I never took my own advice. Now, just 4 months later I’m doing way better. Not perfect, but I can tell I’ve made very good progress.
I disagree about the TV. Unless you are flush with cash a $300 LCD TV is perfectly good in 2023, you won’t lose any life satisfaction from not having the new $3000 OLED TV.
Most of the time there’s a cap after which there are diminishing returns. A $700 phone will probably last you a good 3-4 years, compared to a shitty year or two with a $300 one. However, a $1500 phone isn’t gonna be that much better and won’t last that much longer to be worth it.
Counterpoint: Folding a $700 phone in half breaks it, while doing that to a $1800 Galaxy Z Fold 4 is expected use 😄
I disagree with your disagreement. There is an EXTREMELY noticeable difference between a quality OLED and a $300 LED, and it brings me much joy.
the ole “buy it right, or buy it to the end of time” mantra rings true for so many things
Buy once, cry once.
I read a story on Reddit one time that some of you probably remember.
“Today you. Tomorrow me.”
I think about that often and try to be a generally helpful and kind person to anyone in need. I guess that’s a mantra that I swear by.
Grabthar’s hammer.
What a savings
It’s moments like these that I find myself wishing I had some kind of rudimentary lathe
Is there air?? You don’t know!
No-one ever lay on their death bed wishing they’d done more ironing.
On the whole (unless it’s necessary for a professional environment) it’s a waste of time. I iron nothing, and got rid of my ironing board because it was just getting in the way. I’ve kept my iron just in case, but last time it was used was about 5 years ago when a friend was staying who needed to iron a shirt for a funeral.
I’ve found that a hand-held steamer (use distilled water) gets me by for those few cases where the wrinkles just have to be addressed.
I just hang stuff up in the bathroom and spray with my plant mister, usually does the job.
I’d rather wear creases than iron apart from shirts. That crease releaser is rather decent while being in the shower too. Smells good as well.
Sugaring.
I’ll never understand why people continue to wax when sugar is an option. Wax is heated up to an extreme degree, which is why people can get burned. It sticks to your skin and rips off the top layer, which is why infections are common amd why its so goddamn painful. Wax requires multiple single-use paper strips, which is waistful.
Sugar never gets that hot so you’ll never get burned. It only sticks to your hair, not your skin, so infection risk is much lower and it’s not nearly as painful. No paper strips required, and only one glob of sugar is used.
Overall, all around, sugaring is far superior to waxing.
Is sugaring ok/safe down there?
Heck yeah, I get it done every 5 weeks down there.
I just learned about this. Does this work well for men? The material I see online is all focused on women.
I struggle a lot with body hair and mostly rely on hair removal creams because everything else has too many annoying drawbacks. Would he nice to have a more long-lasting option that doesn’t hurt my skin (and until I save enough to get laser removal)
Yes! If there’s an option to do so in your area, definitely give it a try! I don’t think you’ll ever go back to using those creams.
Never piss off the people who make your food, cut your hair, or work on your teeth.
Adding to this, consider a second opinion on any dental work. One quoted me for a big job, but because of circumstances, I ended up going to a different dentist and they didn’t see anything wrong with my mouth. Been a number of years since and there’s been no problems without any work being done.
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Slowly transitioning myself into more FOSS and self hosting. Linux is tough because I’m fairly dependent on software that, to the best of my knowledge, wouldn’t work on it. Dual booting doesn’t sound fun
I dual boot win10 and Garuda Arch(I use Arch BTW) and it’s pretty painless. Garuda is a gaming centric distro, it plays almost every game I throw at it with no fuss. The only reason I still use windows at all is because my music production programs refuse to run on Linux, regardless of what settings I use in wine or Proton.
