Yeah, that’s a you thing. I have accounts on six or seven instances so far. No disappearing communities at all, posts usually loading fine unless there’s an issue with a specific instance. Comments can be sparse, but that’s a matter of patience. Posts that invite discussion get comments, it just takes longer. The flip side of that is that you can comment everywhere and be certain your comment didn’t get buried, and that there’s a higher chance of it leading to discussion because of that

I can’t say why you’re experiencing the issues, it could be the app. Could be your instance being one that’s kinda not well liked and being defederated by more than the average. Could be your instance just fucking up in general (I’ve seen statements that lemmy.ml is a little unstable currently). And it could be that you just haven’t run across the things that interest you, which may or may not be helped by anything since not every interest has a big community at all, even on a bigger service like reddit.

But the stuff you’re specifically pointing to aren’t happening for everyone, no.

You may experience a lot fewer problems if you switch instances, lemmy.ml is notoriously overloaded.

It’s just you.

lemmy.ml is known for being unreliable and slow and occasional censoring and word filtering. If you’re okay with that, it’s a good instance. If not: search a better fitting instance or self-host one.

(Disclosure: I had to re-write this comment, because the site did not post it – again.)

I see you’re on Lemmy.ml. It’s PROBABLY because of that. That instance is really big so it causes posts to not load and what not . Go to a smaller one. Like in the ~1k range or something and I’m SURE all of these problems will go away. It was the same for me when I first joined Lemmy and picked Lemmy.ml. The following day I switched to Lemmy.ca back when it had ~40 users.

Sometimes you break up because you’ve been cheated, and no matter how good are your next partners, you’ll always be moaning about everything that’s “not like it used to be”, because face it, you didn’t mind being cheated and just broke up because you didn’t want people to say you were a cuckold.

Go back to her, nobody will judge.

It’s been solid for me, just blocking a lot of news type communities so I can browse all a bit more easily

skill issue

What instance are you using?

Many instances are having growing pains, and figuring out which apps aren’t crap is difficult. On iOS, I’ve been pretty happy with Memmy, though Lemmios is good too.

Overall though, the communities here are more pleasant to interact with, and Reddit can’t be trusted. Lemmy has gotten significantly better in just the last month. Give it time and stick with it.

It’s a young piece of software in need of more maintainers. You’re always welcome to join and help :)

I have a lot of issues with Lemmy and more specifically how the fediverse will work with multiple copies of communities and the knee-jerk defederation. But, in terms of stability, content and quality, I feel like it has been getting better. I’m willing to give it some more time.

come back in a month, there are still major architecture changes in the works.

Try instance shopping. Lemmy.ml might not be for you but there are other instances with lively communities. I’ve been having a grand time here

Lemmy’s mobile app ecosystem is terrible… or rather just not very mature and needing a lot more work and contribution. I haven’t found a single Lemmy mobile app, iOS or Android. that is usable long term. I’ve just started logging into Lemmy on my mobile browser and using it that way (which works fine).

Lemmy itself however is great. I run my own instance and yeah, there’s expense and work and troubleshooting involved in that, but it’s all worth it to have the reddit experience with the Lemmy community and to be in complete control of the gateway that I use for that experience.